The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Getting Ready For The Golden Sights Of Autumn In Search Of Sobriety.

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :) and this is the Bus I've been on a while now!

It's filled with a variety of drinkers. Those that do, those that don't, and those who are desperate to STOP but hide it, or embrace it and get the help they NEED.

'Help' in whatever form works for them, your friend or you. Be it AA, a Local Community Alcohol Counselling Group, your GP, your family/friends, this thread or even a combination of all of the above!

You have to want to stop drinking more than wanting to breathe.

I know that right now, that may sound like a ridiculous goal.

They got sober, One Day At A Time then came here during the process to chat about it, discuss their feelings, but more than anything else, their experiences HELPED OTHERS TO BELIEVE that they too could get dry.

They might not get dry and stay dry, sometimes they'll be lying about their consumption, fooling themselves as well as others

BUT when the posters do get dry for good, come back and post to help others with their tricks of the trade or just to say 'I did it!!' my heart jumps for joy because that person, poster, Brave Babe has gone through hell and back, lived to tell the tale and now wants to share that with the rest of the Bus to see if one simple trick or technique will put them on the track to recovery, sobriety, to the life that they want to lead :)

There's two saying that have appeared to stick with us -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

We all have our own reasons for starting to drink 'too much', we all have an excuse don't we.... we all have a "but....."

Well, as I say to Nemo (who you will get to hear about ) - goats butt!

And for those of you who want to know a bit more -

HERE IS THE MOST RECENT THREAD

AND THIS IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN, OVER FOUR YEARS AGO!!!

See you soon x

Aww Phrase I'm sorry you're going through this. It didn't work out for me to have children, and now to add insult to injury I have early menopause.

One newly pregnant colleague (granted, she was over excited and happy) said to me that she couldn't understand people who haven't had children by my age and that it was selfish and I was going to regret it now I'd started menopause. Very hurtful. It made cry on the spot. This was followed by days of can you do this or that job for me today, it smells and the baby doesn't like it, and oh it's so hard being pregnant wry.

I feel like I don't know why I'm here sometimes, and to quote lovely ma, spend a lot of time thinking to myself "Is this it? Is this my life?" I don't do Facebook, probably in a real minority there... are people's lives really as wonderful as they paint them?

Don't let them get you down my lovely, xx

wry that is a really awful thing for your colleague to say, is she usually this tactless or have the hormones screwed up her brain?

And no, people's lives aren't all rainbows and unicorns - I put stuff on my Facebook like a photo of the bombsite that is my daughters room; or of the dog after he's rolled in fox-shit; or the jungle that is the garden. Really I've never understood the "Isn't my life beautiful!" posts. Who are they kidding?

Hangover beginning to wear off,will start on the hats and blankets. Umm..holes are ok,right?

wry I have a personal message for your colleague. It starts with F and ends in off. Go tell her now...grrrr! Just mention piles and leaky pelvic floors every time she's around. See how that one goes down.

phrase I very hope you aren't infertile either,hope I didn't cause offense.Yes,people subconsciously think it's the woman's fault. Actually it's a complex area with multiple factors effecting the chances of conceiving or staying pg after conception.I've been told I'm selfish for having ivf

Facebook is satan's own social platform as far as I'm concerned.

ach, why are some women such GIANT ARSES when it comes to pregnancy?

I think some genuinely do feel that conception is an achievement, marking them out as Successes who then get to pontificate to others. Not like it's just a biological game of chance which is completely unconnected to your character, attitude or desire to have a child.

You poor thing. I'm not surprised you cried. What a cow.

I was joking to a friend of mine the other day -she's also going through a hard time - what FB would look like if people actually used it honestly.

John is going to the doctor's today to talk about his erectile dysfunction. Fingers crossed!

Sally is feeling inadequate at her sister's house.

Nazir family barbecue today, OK but a bit boring

Helen is spending another day not doing things she knows she ought to.

It would make life so much more bearable.

guggs, you didn't offend at all thanks for your replies.

I'm also shocked at the comment about IVF being selfish. Some people need kicking.

I've been thinking about taking myself off FB. I may think more actively about it now.

wry, what are bosies??????

I must know

that would make things more interesting

Joey wondering if the sweet potatoes are still edible, and how can you tell

Bosies are Scottish hugs, but they're more than hugs, they're like crocheted hugs that smell faintly of wet dog.

Thanks Joey

What a fantastic word.

I get the impression that lots of you Babes are Scottish. Am I wrong?

yeah there do seem to be a few of us Scots on here.

Except ma who recently admitted to actually only pretending to be Scottish - despite living north of the Border and looking like a thistle.

How bizarre, conception is a bit like farting, some people do it more than others because of bodily processes, but hardly a Great Achievement.

I was considered more and more odd, single and child free well into my 30s. Then (quite by chance) I got to know a two sisters bouncing around the care system, who decided that I was suitable to fill their vacancy for 'Mum'. I acquired a 12 year old a 5 year old with no stretch marks or morning sickness ;)

Embrace your inner weirdo, you never know where it will take you :)

Ah, if only my tendency to get pregnant was equal to my tendency to fart - we'd have three by now.

Your story is rather lovely, sig. I imagine it's not easy for a 12 and 5 year old in care to find a loving home together, but they were obviously just right for you, and you for them.

I like 'embrace your inner weirdo'.

I love the idea of real, honest fb statuses (statusi?) they would make much more interesting reading

Guggs is resisting the ww. She has explained in detail to her dh how she will become thin and fit enough to run marathons. She is now curled up with a book and mn.

I left out the bit where I was half way through a M&S chocolate log thingy and discussing joining slimming world.

sig That could be a bus motto,wonderful.

baby?
mouse?
rural?

Any missing babes please come and give a wave. Likewise babes who have lapsed and lapsed and lapsed again- this is a safe space to talk about booze. No judging allowed.Any lurkers?
Anyone spotted the ads for Sober October?

Bollocks- I've misused that question mark,haven't I ?

Yeah, where's babyj ? hello babyj are you lurking?

That's as in honking the horn, not as a result of eating the sweet potatoes

I am indeed an alien in a foreign world and do indeed have a heid like a thistle!
Wish this terrifying referendum stuff wasn't happening though. Its horrible here. Folk at each other's throats...
Dd2 has got a job! Yay. Part time in a coffee shop but will help keep her fed through uni and ease the financial pressure a bit. Still have to pay out next month though until wages kick in. Bloody child. Still very lapsed here which is so fucking stupid as was really doing well, losing weight, people commenting on it....so let's just chuck all that away shall we? Gah! I so annoy myself!! Got big posh black tie dinner on Thursday night with lovely boss...might just go out with a bang
There is a pre-order wine list ( told you it was posh) and he was asking what I wanted (as in what did I want from the list he had in front of him)
I said " Do you have a Semillon?" to which he replied, " No, its just the way I'm sitting."
Am still laughing!

ma sounds promising

Hi babes, poking head in again...
As you may know my addiction isn't alcohol but reading these threads you all have the same prompts, triggers, mindset as I do and the theory is the same IMVHO.

I'm in a massive pickle, and have drafted my enormous 'confessional' ready to post to FINALLY tell someone, anyone what I've been hiding for around 18months now.

Haven't posted it yet though...

Something has to change with me, I'm fairly sure DH suspects something is up with me, and my lies are becoming more and more ridiculous. I'm backed into a corner financially too, and feel like a pressure cooker about to explode.

I need to know that it's possible to deal with this on my own with no one in RL finding out, because I feel perilously close to my cover being blown and if that happens then I will lose everything.

So, anyone up for reading and telling me I'm not the worst one, it will be ok etc that type of thing?

Thanks babes, I feel like you lot will 'get' the way my head is working

Phrase that is one scary motherscuttlin' crab! On a good day, I'm more like this little fella.

Sorry to hear about your (and others') fertility issues.

Vinegar Tits has got me by the short long and curlies I'm well and truly in the sidecar

Er . . . I'm pregnant

Eeeeep! No sidecar for me

It's exciting and scary at the same time. We really want it to work, but until we have a healthy scan then it could still be like the last few.

I got the result this morning. It's not really sunk in yet . . .

crabby, that is a very cute crab. I like the little ones, but coconut crabs are bloody horrible. Imagine one lumbering out at you . . . euuuuch

ma, I like your boss just from that comment.

just, I for one would be happy to read

Morning all,

spanna new day today

what a cute little crab!

just when you say you don't want anyone in rl to find out,which i get,do you include na and private counselling in that? I have only told dh and 1/2 close friends in rl but I go (mostly) to meetings which are anonymous. Gulp..I don't know how things are with you- maybe post your story- but the meetings have made all the difference. ignore recent lapses . of course you can do it on your own but it is harder.

Post away my lovely,I really don't think there is a single thing which can't be said here. (terrible sentence construction but you know what I mean)

Phrase WOW!!!!!!! Will keep everything crossed for you.

phrase congrats!!......this bus here works miracles. . I'm testament to that fact. Also keeping everything crossed for you. You do realise if it's a boy it now has to be named "Gerald" and if it's a girl "Geraldine".

A bus baby. Fabulous. xx