The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Getting Ready For The Golden Sights Of Autumn In Search Of Sobriety.

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :) and this is the Bus I've been on a while now!

It's filled with a variety of drinkers. Those that do, those that don't, and those who are desperate to STOP but hide it, or embrace it and get the help they NEED.

'Help' in whatever form works for them, your friend or you. Be it AA, a Local Community Alcohol Counselling Group, your GP, your family/friends, this thread or even a combination of all of the above!

You have to want to stop drinking more than wanting to breathe.

I know that right now, that may sound like a ridiculous goal.

They got sober, One Day At A Time then came here during the process to chat about it, discuss their feelings, but more than anything else, their experiences HELPED OTHERS TO BELIEVE that they too could get dry.

They might not get dry and stay dry, sometimes they'll be lying about their consumption, fooling themselves as well as others

BUT when the posters do get dry for good, come back and post to help others with their tricks of the trade or just to say 'I did it!!' my heart jumps for joy because that person, poster, Brave Babe has gone through hell and back, lived to tell the tale and now wants to share that with the rest of the Bus to see if one simple trick or technique will put them on the track to recovery, sobriety, to the life that they want to lead :)

There's two saying that have appeared to stick with us -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

We all have our own reasons for starting to drink 'too much', we all have an excuse don't we.... we all have a "but....."

Well, as I say to Nemo (who you will get to hear about ) - goats butt!

And for those of you who want to know a bit more -

HERE IS THE MOST RECENT THREAD

AND THIS IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN, OVER FOUR YEARS AGO!!!

See you soon x

Fuck. Am desperate for a drink. Can almost taste it! I usually do once DS is in bed, the cut off into grown up time, and he will be asleep soon. I really don't want to feel like this, it's not bloody normal! I want to have the occassional glass of wine, yes, but not to obsess over it or want one (or four) every bloody night.
Grrr

Nance lovey, I wish I could say some wise and helpful words, but that would make me a hypocrite.

I've just had the old, perhaps slightly off, wine left over from cooking.

Straight from the bottle, usual classless method. I don't know what happened, I was fine and then it was just there. And then it wasn't.

crabby saw this and thought of you, this is how I see you, fearlessly brandishing your claws at the WW.

The little crabby got away, btw.

Giving the alligator a wee crabby 'v' before it sank out of danger.

phrase so very happy to hear about wee barryina. A new bus baby!
Nancy can you do something to occupy yourself for the next half hour even? A bath? Shopping list? Paint your nails?
Didn't take a door wedge. Can you believe that the door at the end of distracted chap's office doesn't lead back into the corridor, but into a wee annexe? Who knew?

ma whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?

Did you have an assignation?

An annex, you say? I'm imagining summat like Quagmire's shagpad here.

Eh? He has his own secret shag annex? Well, that's handy.

Oh maaaaaaaaaa-aaaaaaaaaaa coeee.

are you still in the annex??????

Not a shag annexe.No bed or handcuffs or anything.
Not that I was in there or anything!

Hello joey!

How are you doing the day? xx

Hoy...not so fast!

Hey wry get aff my heid!
We had a positive meeting covering various issues and I was able to deal with matters arising to his satisfaction.

Satisfaction eh?

I am a smut for brains.

Hi all, just managed to get DS to sleep. I've been trying since I last posted. I think it's because hes snotty and has a cough. And, sheepish, am probably going to have a drink as DH has just had some excellent bonus related news. I can't work out if I've been incredibly weak or it's fine, I'm not going to go mental and swig the bottle within an hour but, well, it's only bloody Tuesday!

Barryina, now theres a lovely name

Good new re DH's bonus, Nance! Loving all the happy news! xx

Thanks. It's great news especially as we are hoping to buy this amazing house (they accepted our offer but now it's off the market for a bit as the vendors house fell through so they are taking it off while looking for something else and will then, hopefully, sell it to us when they have somewhere.) We have £4500 on a loan that needs to be cleared before we can get the mortgage, as we took it out while renovating this house as we had to move ASAP due to DS's imminent arrival.

Can anyone tell me about how they found themselves on the bus...? There are too many posts to read through (and I really ought to read my Allen Carr book while I sip, yes SIP, my wine.)

ma pleeeeezzz bring some excitement into my life, did you snog???

wry back on form, the world is normal again, we need you xxx

nancery at least your thinking about your cravings and your trying, it's early days, even cutting down or 1 night nearly AF is a step forward, tomorrow you start with a shiny new day, it's taken me a year and 60,000 attempts (feels like that anyway) to get to here. Don't get me wrong I had a full on breakdown, drank myself into oblivion and worried dh dd and my parents to death so another of my "episodes" would cause terrible harm to my family so im out of lives and whenever I get depressed I drink so for me it's s kinda forced sobriety but seeing everyone around me relax into their own lives again has humbled me into keeping on keeping on. I think it's almost harder if it's acceptable in your home environment to drink, sometimes encouraged by friends and partners, just enjoy dh's good news, it really is a process xx

23 days and yet still fat, now that my asking the cosmos to protect phrase's baby has worked, it will be "make me slim" hardly the same but a girl can try.... Oh and a distracted chap would be nice too x

Baby wanders off rambling "is there anybody out there?" "Helloooo" "can you here me cosmos?)

Good news Nancy. Have one to celebrate then off to bed for a shag for cuddles.
mouse did you make day 2?
Venus where are you oh wise woman
soc are you still driving this here bus?
We need baby on board sticker for phase
wry how's the ankle? I'm tryinv to be like you and name check everyone bit haven't a hope in hell so waves to beaches and spanna and joey and baby and hope and everyone else!

baby.......maybe!

Nance I had a meltdown day at work, my personal life sank to nowt , I felt worthless and hopeless and so, so sad. I felt that if I opened my mouth I would scream and it would never stop. My lupus can make me feel very depressed, almost out of nowhere. I found myself at the bus stop thinking 'if I just stepped out...there will be nothing to feel...'

But I went home, sobbed into LittleLab, drank seriously dubious and sour long opened wine and came on to MN. Finding this bus and the lovely folk who travel without judging, saved me in more ways than one. xx

wry good to see you! we missed you.

ma his matters were arising, eh?

wry sorry! I cross posted. I'm glad you managed to find us

A shagging annex blimey I've come over all embarrassed! Ma I am glad all matters arising were duly dealt with. Sound very......productive.

Wry Are you alright there my flower? Seems that devious old wine witch made a grab for you tonight, not to worry. Sometimes we veer off but in the scheme of things no big deal.

baby instead of 'make me slim' , try 'I love this slim new me'. According to the law of attraction, this is a more effective thought. Well, it can't hurt

Nancery my story isn't one of rock bottom, more of a deepening sense is despair and self loathing. i was drinking every day, a bottle of wine usually and felt hopeless and ashamed. It was compounded by my Dad being a heavy drinker and seeing him in me. Eventually, it was a desperate need to come up for air that led me to the bus. I have managed to chalk up some longish periods of not drinking but when I do drink, I still just want to get shitfaced. Still working it out to be honest. Congrats on the bonus news!

joey sorry I missed you earlier, my dream house guests (cough) will be arriving on Sat