The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Getting Ready For The Golden Sights Of Autumn In Search Of Sobriety.

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :) and this is the Bus I've been on a while now!

It's filled with a variety of drinkers. Those that do, those that don't, and those who are desperate to STOP but hide it, or embrace it and get the help they NEED.

'Help' in whatever form works for them, your friend or you. Be it AA, a Local Community Alcohol Counselling Group, your GP, your family/friends, this thread or even a combination of all of the above!

You have to want to stop drinking more than wanting to breathe.

I know that right now, that may sound like a ridiculous goal.

They got sober, One Day At A Time then came here during the process to chat about it, discuss their feelings, but more than anything else, their experiences HELPED OTHERS TO BELIEVE that they too could get dry.

They might not get dry and stay dry, sometimes they'll be lying about their consumption, fooling themselves as well as others

BUT when the posters do get dry for good, come back and post to help others with their tricks of the trade or just to say 'I did it!!' my heart jumps for joy because that person, poster, Brave Babe has gone through hell and back, lived to tell the tale and now wants to share that with the rest of the Bus to see if one simple trick or technique will put them on the track to recovery, sobriety, to the life that they want to lead :)

There's two saying that have appeared to stick with us -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

We all have our own reasons for starting to drink 'too much', we all have an excuse don't we.... we all have a "but....."

Well, as I say to Nemo (who you will get to hear about ) - goats butt!

And for those of you who want to know a bit more -

HERE IS THE MOST RECENT THREAD

AND THIS IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN, OVER FOUR YEARS AGO!!!

See you soon x

Night out was ok. Got a tad tipsy with a rather dishy army colonel who was sitting next to me! Got to,got to get back onto low carb and low booze! Anyone thinking about sober October??????

Hey folks. I am still around. I have not been AF and life is currently a huge struggle. Just wanted to check in briefly. Love to all the babes.

Hello everyone, sorry I'm not NCing everyone tonight but on the Batphone again.

little! Hello sweetheart! How are you my lovely? Have a seat on the bus with us, we'll look after you.

ma why do I feel so disappointed that Mr Distracted wasn't there to make you feel as light as purple thistledown whirling round the dance floor?

I am on the verge myself of just blowing it, I knew I shouldn't have looked at the article about the Manchester Dog's Home. I am hugging and hugging Little with tears rolling down my face. I've come on here to try to keep focused, but I want to blot all those words out with anything I can lay my hands on.

I hope the little fucker gets the biggest kicking known to man. And you will know I don't say those words lightly. I know he's someone's son but at that age you know exactly what you're doing and that was beyond cruel. Beyond.

Sorry Babes, I know there are atrocities happening worldwide. Guess maybe it's because Little is the centre of my very tiny universe, and to know they passed without a cuddle is killing me.

Sorry guggs x

You OK wry?
Lots of folk seeming a bit down these last few days, me included.
Dh seriously pissing me off tonight so am ignoring him and mning until he fucks off to bed. He's such a twunt at times. He "knows" this or "knows for a fact" that.....no, it is only your opinion. You don't "know" it! Just because you think it doesn't make it true you self I opinionated twat!

Aye ma, that arseholian self belief pisses me right off too. if I disagree with WB I am being 'unreasonable' Which is curious, as it is impossible to reason with him..

Sorry I'm on a bit of a downer tonight, it's not been great today, felt very laden. I'm working tomorrow and just feel I need to pull the duvet over my head instead. You're right ma, there's a few of us struggling this week.

I blame the Supermoon. Or perhaps boobs. And definitely some testicles and their owners. I'm away to make myself mushrooms on toast. And a mug of builder's tea. Be back in a bit. xx

Hello. Just saying hi to all. Will be an on and off again bus-ser. Weekends are my downfall, and have fallen down.

Have little else to add except a reminder to NEVER rub ones eyes after cutting chilli's. Ow!

Hi Version! How are you?

P.S Careful wiping your nethers if you pee. xx

Hello wry. Will try to remember in time! Have just remembered the story of a chilli/tampon change disaster.:) anyway, will check in again next week. Workdays are ok.

(Purple Opel fruits fan by the way)

Have a good weekend Version, catch you next week!

D'argh Day 0 again here... no reason at all, I just couldn't be bothered trying to fight it.

wry I know, those poor wee dogs. I hear the sister site has taken all the remaining dogs. Maybe you could adopt one? Or donate, they must be overwhelmed.

Hi babes, had a crap day but
'Preaching to the perverted'
Has just made me laugh out loud, thanks for that one it's proper tickled me!
Anyway, I have a plan, I've drafted and re drafted my MN confessional, safe in the knowledge that I will not be judged.
Cannot for the bloody life of me work out how to name change on my phone, may just start a whole new account but don't know if that's allowed... I'm sure it's very obvious but you know when you've looked at something too long you can't see what's staring you in the face?!

Anyway, upon reading my sort of life story it's pretty bad and a vivid description of a double life which I need to fix before I get caught and everything crashes down.

And I need to do that next week.

So, babes, I will find a way to post under a different name and await your wisdom, in the absence of wisdom daft jokes will do :-)

Hi just whenever you're ready quine xx

joey I popped on to donate, and going to take some bags of food and toys to our local shelter. Little was a rescue, leg, facial, jaw and rib fractures by her previous owner. It breaks my heart.

On earlies today, shattered but haudin gaun, bosies to all, xx

Morning all,

just go ahead,lovely. That sharing of a life story is often the starting point for making changes and clearing the deck. Only share when you want to though. This is the kind of thread where people can just say what they like,when they like. No pressure.

wry arseholian self belief??? LOVE IT! next time I'm mansplained at,that phrase will pass through my mind. Am with you on the dog's home business though,more of a mad cat lady myself but can't bear cruelty to animals.

version chilli/tampon? noooooooo!

Also if anyone has a scooby about changing names then please share. I'd like a change and just isn't quite sure either.

Day 1 again

I've got such a 'fuck it' head on at the moment and no 'off' button, not good

So I'm starting again today and the idea of Day 1, Day 2 seems like an upward struggle and my determination to 'do it' seems to be hiding at the moment

Wry my darling, sorry that I've been AWOL this week, I find it slightly wrong posting when I've had a drink sounds a bit weird but I feel that I shouldn't also have been too pissed to post
I hope work isn't too stressful today, hang in there babe, you are doing so well on the AF front. Hope you enjoyed your mushrooms

Beaches lovely how are you twinkle? How are your boys settling in? Sending you huge hugs x

Baby so glad to see you back. Hope you've got some lovely things planned this weekend

Joey I feel similar on the 'I'm drinking for no particular reason' it's just so bloody tempting at the moment - WW has got me fooled, she's such a beeeatch Hope you have a good weekend x

Ma quick squeeze lovely

Guggs Hello lovely, I'm not a techy, I've no idea how to NC. Hope all good in the Guggs household

Little good to see you, hope you've got lots planned whilst DH in China? Hope you have a good weekend lovely

Sorry not to NC you all (too scared of losing posts when they get long) How are you all? Hope you all have a lovely weekend

Not even day 1 here. Just can't get going at the mo. Ds has made peanut butter and Choc chip cookies. Damned temptation everywhere....
Have been for a run though!

Evening, tis me, Mouse :)

I'm sorry not to have been around much, I've been sorting the house out. Why is it that you have SO much stuff in the smallest of places? It's crazy.

Guggs - you can go into the 'My Mumsnet' part at the top of the screen and where it says registration, you can NC change there. I'm sure that is where I have done it in the past.

If not, try PMing MNHQ. Once you have NC'd you need to refresh each page that you are or have posted on and still want to so that you have that you your new name.

Hey Ma

I am also going to do the low/no carb diet. And I've ditched some of my meds that were doing no good but making me HUGE! I got on the Wii Fit Plus yesterday and my Avatar has put 1 stone on! And she had a reet belly on her!!!

I've got a new tablet come netbook thingy that I'm getting used to. It's weird but good fun. A laptop with a removable keyboard!

So I haven't read ten pages back but how are you all? :)

My back is killing me and Nemo is due to have his MRI and CT scan under a general anaesthetic next Monday. Life is mega busy. I lost my role on the Committee as Chairperson but kept a role as Vice Secretary. I HAVE to do something or I'll go bonkers!

Just off to sort the laundry and it is date night tonight so we're on Cava and maybe a glass of wine with dinner. The last time I drank, I had 4 glasses over the course of the night and really didn't enjoy it at all. I just don't get the appeal anymore, I really don't!

Oh Jeeze. He has just made my neighbour cry. I spend too much time apologising for his behaviour, it wears me down. He comes out with crude, ill thought out amusing comments that may (fucking don't) sound funny in his head.

He is creeping round me now, because he knows I'm fucking seething. When we got in the car he said "she obviously has mental health issues..." It's a good job Little was in the car, my voice was at a pitch only she could hear. But like the Godfather, it's when the squeak stops and the silence starts...

Raging. I daren't drink or he'll be a statistic by twenty past eight.

Sorry lovely folk, I don't know what's wrong with me this week, I am a girn, and no mistake.

I had such a lovely day at work. Really I did.

There is a common denominator here...

Will return when I am fed, washed and be-jammied and back to myself again.

xx

Oh wry gie yersel' a wee bosie

(Did I say it right?)

Am trying to learn Scottish as it might count as a modern foreign language after the split

x

Enjoy your date night Mouse, wishing you an assortment of quality cheeses through the ether!

Have you started blogging, or will that be when you get the measure of your new toy?

Hope wee Nemo gets on okay on Monday, x

Faire, cheers me dear, I hereby give you an honours in Scottish! That was perfect!

He is now raging at me. I am ignoring him. It's going to be a long night. I wish I had the strength to do this, but I'm buggered. I need not to cry when I do it. I'm so flattened I just might. I want his last sight of me disappearing into the distance to be me looking like the strong, confident, swishy wry he first met.

One day I will

One day, wry, one day. Why not get into a bath and lock the door. Stick your head under so that you can't hear him, or have music playing.

Don't drown or electrocute yourself though!

I know, Faire, I'm annoyed I stooped to his level by raising my voice. It's his standard response to upset women, that it's a mental health issue. He's still shouting. I have learned that there's no point in trying to talk it through as he will never accept responsibility for his actions. Only if I apologise will he buck up.

Bath it is. Might even sing. That'll learn him

What are you up to tonight Faire? Xx

Wry - how old is he? Can you send him to bed and just tell him that tomorrow there will be some changes? Or do you not like his bedroom as part of punishment? What do you normally do?

I'm an ignore/low quiet voice with a little malice in there for DD but she's 15. It's frickin' hard!

Re my blogging, I'm going to start once I get to grips with this thing. It's been years since I've had something that actually works. I had a Playtab not long ago, it crashed and burned, so off it went to be repaired. Two weeks later, screen shattered, warranty had just run out.

£80 to repair, it cost £120. to buy!!! Frick off!

Anyway, big, deep breaths, it's hard to keep calm and not scream in their faces but I remember having that as a child and thinking "why are screaming at me? It doesn't change what's happened does it?"

I never said it aloud though! I may be brave but I'm not stupid!

Here, have some of this or you could just get in one of these and zoom off to somewhere tranquil for the evening, the world stopping so that you could take as much time as you need?

Big hugs xxx