Iv logged on to hopefully feel less lonely. I am a 35 year old single mum who has been single for 3 years, well up until 6 months ago. Its true what people say you need to find you after a divorce and I completely have, went back to college, lost 3 stone made new friends even dated (terrible bad luck with men) learnt so much along the way about relationships but here I am desperate for some advice. This guy is younger with 3 kids of his own who lives back at home. He has bought me flowers, a lovely gift for my birthday and has recently met my2 cchildren and is fabulous. Now im gonna sound a right ungrateful cow. He is so predictable always says what I want to hear without even listening if you get me? I can do no wrong. So hard to explain. He works nights and I work long days and when there not long I like to spend time with my girls. He has his kids every weekend cos his ex works. He wants to meet with the kids all the time (at my house) which is nice but its hectic enough being a working single mum. When do we have time to go out? On the 3 occasions we have I felt all panicky. I don't feel excited to see him or dont think about him like he does me. I probably sound selfish but maybe im emotionally damaged? Why am I moaning all of my friends have reasons to moan about their boyfriend's/husbands. I am moaning because I don't feel excited :( we haven't slept together yet either. This really isnt fair on him is it? What if this is what it should feel like. My mum says im older now its not the same.