Midnight Handholding needed - DH has just told me about affair

[SeaMeadows]

Title says it all, really.

DH has just told me he's been having an affair with a colleague.

Can't sleep, need a bit of handholding from you ladies who have once again been proved right.

P.s. Am a long-term regular but DH knows my normal nickname and I want to be anonymous for a bit.

Hand holding here

Here too. I'm so sorry.

So sorry OP. Hand holding and here. Have you thought about what you're going to do next?

So sorry. Am in Oz so up for the day and around if you need to chat. Did you have any inkling? Why has he decided to tell you?

Ah, that's such a fucker, I'm sorry. What do you think you'll do next?

Thank you. I knew there would be people here to reply. Awful that I can rely on you and not on my DH :-(

I feel such a fool. It's the classic script. I've read it a thousand times on here and I didn't recognise it myself.

I don't really know what to do next.

He's told me because he wants to leave me. Or probably wants to leave me.

Don't feel a fool, not your fault OP. Is he staying elsewhere tonight, or on the sofa or something?

No, I've gone to a friend, but couldn't sleep and didn't want to wake her.

Glad to hear you've got someone to stay with x

Do you have DC? I'd be going home tomorrow and telling him to leave if that's his plan. Don't let him drive you out of your own home.

No, no DC.

I don't want to be the one surrounded by the things I chose with such love. At least here, it's totally anonymous.

I kept looking at the sofa thinking 'how do we split the sofa'? And on and on for every piece of furniture in the room

He can move his new girlfriend in for all I care.

Can you afford a place of your own, though?

I was thinking about renting a room? I don't know what I'd do with all my furniture, though.

I guess I could sell it all and go backpacking round the world!

What a dick. So sorry

You could totally go backpacking. If you could go anywhere, where would you go?

Whilst travelling recently I met a lovely girl, about 28, recently divorced from EA husband who she had been with since school. She sold everything she had and is spending a year travelling the world. She was one of the happiest people I've ever encountered - I highly recommend!!

Well, I've always wanted to walk to Santiago.

But I guess I could do anything, now! The world is full of possibilities!

It really is. You are bound to feel shit and need time to grieve, but if you can find the silver lining while you recover, you will be WINNING at life, you really will.

Yeah, I'm telling myself, now is the bit when I grieve. And the other bits are sill to come.

So sorry to hear this Sea, what a bastard.

Hand holding here too

Thank you :-)

Christ.

What a twat.

Anyway enough about him! Why would you choose Santiago?

South America iis on my hit list too,

And if you do need RL support, I'm sure your friend wouldn't mind being woken to keep you company and talk