Can't believe I'm typing this out. Hoping to god no one knows me. So here goes...
Background... Been together seven n a half years. Pregnancy put a big stop to our sex life. We went from daily to weekly to fortnightly. Not much touching connection/snuggling otherwise. I feel a big connection was lost.
We struggled along while DD was small. Generally on mat leave and once I went back to work, he'd go into the spare room once she woke and stayed there for the night. Still sex fortnightly but more weekly or somewhere in between if say.
Now DD is 2yrs 10/11months. Definitely fortnightly now and it's a 'do you want sex?' 'Yeah go on then' in bed, lights off. Generally his excuse is that he's tired/just wants to go sleep. Fair enough, so am I.
I've tried dressing up etc. he waits til we are in bed and I'm sat downstairs waiting for bedtime in my ann summers. Sometimes/half of the time he still says he's too tired.
When he's been out drinking he wants sex and it's great.
So last night... After an hour of sleeping next to me he goes to spare room saying he's too hot. Other room is much cooler. Smaller but comfier bed. Few hours later I get up for a wee and hear the very creaky bed creaking like a thrusting 3/4 times and then a groan as it stops. Not sure if a waking up suddenly groan from say a bad dream or a groan
I walk out of bathroom and about thirty seconds later he goes for a wee too.
He says he's still attracted to me. Do I ask him if he did that while I was in the next room having already asked him or just act as if it never happened and ask if he's still attracted/wants me etc?