please help

[TheEndOfTheWorldAsIKnowIt]

Just found out my partner of 14 years is cheating on me and I don't know what to do. He is sending is ex saucy messages arranging to meet up for sex tomorrow.
What do I do??'

He is meeting her today.

How's it going OP?
Has he left the house yet to meet her?
I really hope you are OK.

Hi op, how's it going today? Your head must be spinning/throbbing/fit to burst, I hope your doing alright x x

kaykayblue great advice.

I'm thinking of you today op. It is shit. Shittiest shitfest in a whole world of shit.

But you won't always feel this way, I promise. Little steps. x

Thinking of you OP.

I agree with all of what's been said go to a Solisiters and kick his arse out.

Stay strong.

I had to get out of the house this afternoon so not sure if he went but almost certain he did. Need to get dd in bed then I can sort my head out.
Thanks for all the support.

You didn't find out what he did this afternoon?

Did you confide in either of your guests?

Blimey Theend how are you keeping a lid on this?!

What are you going to do?

Oh I Am so sorry for you. Don't ever think it is you, it's him - I've spent 10 years thinking I wasn't good enough for my ex - and he wasn't even worth it in the end.

His loss if he doesn't realise what he had. Thinking of you.

Thinking of you op. Hope you are ok. Lots of wise words On here for you x

You alright lovely?

No it hurts so much

What are your plans now?

This is just awful.

HaveYou got some support through this?

I honestly think you'd feel better if you got the wanker out of your house/bed.

You must be in a horrible limbo.

We're here for you. X

How horrible. Offering you a hand to hold

Have you said anything to him?

How are you today love? I sincerely hope you've got someone there supporting you, I feel really quite worried for you :(

I have confronted him, told him what I know. Apparently it is all my fault because I don't show him any affection.. Nothing happened and it never would and he only sent the messages because he knew I was snooping. Wish I was playing 'the script' bingo.

What do you want to do, TheEnd?

It sounds to me like he is an arrogant liar with strong tones of emotional abuse.

Typical minimising and blaming you then? Predictable sadly.

What are you going to do now? You deserve much more than what he is offering.

What do I want to do? I want to go back and unsee the messages, for none of this to be real, to have a happy family again.
What am I going to do? I really don't know. I can't live with a man who thinks so little of me, I don't want my children thinking this is normal in a relationship. One person feels down, not being shown enough attention so they sex text their ex???
I really don't know what is going to happen.

What is going to happen is totally in your hands. You can't un-see or un-know. It's futile to look back so ... look ahead to your options.
You've kind of set the framework when you say:

I can't live with a man who thinks so little of me

Is there any chance he would leave for awhile?
Space to breathe and be angry would be good for you

Honestly, blaming you for having to get his rocks off elsewhere, he has made his feelings for you quite clear.

Let him go as that's where he wants to be.