My 58 year old mother is pregnant by her husband that is younger than her children!!!!

[freakedthefckout]

So my mum is 58, her husband is 34, they got married last year after they had broke up because he wanted children, now they are married and today they told me she is pregnant.

My mum had a son when she was 16, kept him until he was 5 years old and then gave him away apprantley because my dad wasn't very nice to him (my dad is not her sons dad) and my mum already had my older sister(with m y dad) and kept her.

When my younger brother was a teenager my mum and dad broke up and as my brother was a naughty teenager she decided it would be better for my brother to stay with my dad. There was alot of issues and family dramas which resulted in my mum and my little brother not speaking from when he was 14 to now he is 23.

So basically she felt at the time it was easier for my teenage brother not to be around so she could be with her new young partner that is 24 years younger than her, she has two children older than him.

Anyway she has been with this same young guy for about 9 years and they got marrried last year and now she is pregnant.

WTF I cannot get my head around it, my dd is very close with my mum and we spend alot of time with her. They have a very string bond and as I am a single parent my mum helps out alot.

Anyway I think its very weird that a 58 year old woman would have a child. she basically gave up two children beacuse of the men she was with at the time and now she is having a baby at such a late age in desperation to keep a man.

Also she is not a fit and healthy 58 year old, she has angina and high cholesterol and a thryoid problem. Why on eath do they both think its a good idea to put her body through this at this time in her life?

I know its their decision etc and not really my business, but when they told me i got very angry and quite frankly lost it. I just think they are weird and out of order. It is also unfair to this baby to have such and old mum, when this kid is 10 its mum will be not far off 70!!!! How is that fair?

I just needed to get it off my chest, I'm really not sure if I can be around them anymore I think they are too weird and too selfish.

[StealthPolarBear]

Yes I suspect there is a tall tale in here somewhere.
Op if your mum is pregnant she will need looking after i suspect. Who will do that?

[StealthPolarBear]

" My mum had a son when she was 16, kept him until he was 5 years old and then gave him away apprantley because my dad wasn't very nice to him (my dad is not her sons dad) and my mum already had my older sister(with m y dad) and kept her. "
By older sister do you mean older child? So your mum and dad had a baby when your mum was 15? 16? And then your mum had a ds with another man with your dad still in the picture. And then they went on to have you. And then 4 decades later she's having another baby with a man ten years younger than her first child?

[WeAreEternal]

It isn't at all impossible.

I have a friend who had a surprise pregnancy in her late 50's, her dd is 8 now.
She said it was a really tough pregnancy and she was high risk but it all worked out fine.

[WeAreEternal]

SPB

I read it that she had DS1 at 16 then met the DH1 and had DD1, have DS1 away and then had DD2 and DS2.
She then split from DH1 and sent the teen DS2 to live with his dad.

[FannyFifer]

She must have had ivf or something.

[hollie84]

Stealth - I read that as the mum had her first son at 16. When he was 5, she was 21 and married to the OP's dad and they had a daughter (the OP's older sister) together, and she gave the 5 year old son away. They later had the OP and the OP's younger brother, and when the parents split she sent the 14 year old younger brother to live with his dad.

[StealthPolarBear]

But she said when she had the ds at 16 she "already had" her older sister.

[Patrickstarisabadbellend]

Well this is weird.

[hollie84]

No, when she gave up her oldest son (when he was 5) she already had the older sister with her husband.

[AllMimsyWereTheBorogoves]

If she is pregnant, at that age and with her health problems, there must surely be a pretty high chance of miscarriage or problems later on. I'm 53 and the idea of having another child now is horrific!

[hollie84]

There's nothing wrong with children living with their dad, but it depends on the circumstances - not speaking to your 14 year old for the next 9 years because he'd have got in the way of your new relationship sounds a bit rubbish.

[WhereTheWildlingsAre]

Righty ho....

[Pinkfrocks]

I think the oldest natural pg in the UK is around 56.
58 is nigh impossible without IVF.

Periods at 56-58 are often anovular- you have bleeding but no eggs are released.

There are very very few women aged 58 who are not post menopause. Maybe 0.1% at most.

So- am sceptical.

[AllMimsyWereTheBorogoves]

The phrasing is a bit ambiguous but I'm reading that the same way as hollie and WeAreEternal.

Rudy, I don't think it's relevant how far back it was. However, if this is a true story it's worth bearing in mind we're only getting one side of the story.

[CadleCrap]

Yes indeed Patrick.

[Optimist1]

Anyone else thinking of Petula Gordino?

[firesidechat]

I though the same asPinkfrocks about the oldest natural pregnancy being 56, hence my first post. Seems there may have been older ones though.

[SanityClause]

Article about a UK woman who naturally conceived at 59.

So, it is possible, if unlikely.

However, if this woman has given up two children in favour of new partners, including a teenaged son, only 9 years ago, if I were the OP, I would want to protect my DD from being hurt by her.

The OPs mother is a 59yo woman - well capable of making her own decisions regarding her health. I don't really think its the OP's responsibility to look after her in that regard.

The OP's responsibility is to her DD.

[Pinkfrocks]

What also doesn't make sense is that you say your mum gave away your brother when he was 5, but that she'd had another child- your older sister- before that- which means she was either 14 or 15 when she had that child, as she was 16 when she had your brother.

This is one very fertile lady

[hollie84]

I think you're misreading that Pinkfrocks - she'd had another child with her husband by the time she gave up the 5 year old.

[ExcuseTypos]

My DDs are 20 and 23 and I'm enjoying having lots of free time with DH and for myself. The thought of night feeds, tantrums and nappies would have me jumping off a cliff