My husband has a history of seeing/becoming obsessed with sex workers. Last time I was so devastated that I left him for four months. We are both in our sixties and it's the second marriage for both of us. We've been married for ten years but he has always been involved with other women and they are always 'professionals'. I could cope if it really was just a 'massage' or even full sex and it was a business transaction but he takes them out to dinner, buys them presents and texts them endlessly. He even invited one of them to a garden party at our house. I know when it's happening because he treats me off-handedly and is more critical.
I recently discovered that he had 'lent' one thousand of pounds --over 50 thousand and I left him but he promised to stop seeing her and all other sex workers but now I'm back at home and he's off again with a new one... He likes to advise them as to how they can run their business and make more money and more of themselves. Writing this I know I sound pathetic but I love him. My friend says either leave him or 'put up and shut up'. I feel useless and despairing tonight. Any ideas anyone ?