I kind of agree with neiljames on this one, although I disagree with his conclusions. I tend to alter my behaviour around women too. Looking back to how I've behaved throughout my life I recognise a lot of what I've done is misogynistic, and I still find myself reacting to situations differently depending on the perceived gender of those involved. It's something that I consciously try to avoid, but I'm only too aware that my thought process would betray me if anyone is given to telepathy!
Stuff like chivalry, mansplaining and that kind of thing, while I can say with a clear conscience that I did do it with good intentions, those intentions were skewed, and have been skewed since I've been raised in a patriarchal society. It is only since I've had a bit of awareness rasing that I recognise my behaviours and seek to adress them. It's weird being brought up to value equality, then realsise that it doesn't really exist and that I was part of the problem.
Anyway, does this all mean I despise women. Not on a personal level, no. There are an awful lot of men who I believe do. There are even more who fall into the mould I occupied/occupy. At a population level I'm not sure I'd use the word despise, it implies a conscious decision, but there's certainly an element of fear, jealousy and dislike (hate?) that is displayed to all women by pretty much all men, whether at an unconsious or conscious level.
This kind of debate often falls down due to the arguing over semantics, i.e. what does "despise" mean, and are we all using it in the same way? Also what do we mean by "Class"? I've tended to view it as analogous to "population", not applicable to individuals. I don't think there's any other way of dealing with the patriarchy really, it is impossible to campaign for Feminism on an individual level.