Monday morning oral sex survey

[EdwiniasRevenge]

Just 2 questions.

Not phrased very well I'm afraid. Just trying to guage -from a woman's POV what is the 'normal' spread of responses after a heated debate last night (and yes I know that doesn't matter what everyone else does its what you feel comfortable that counts etc. This is purely to prove a point)

When giving oral sex to a man where do you "stop"
a) I don't give oral sex
b) I don't/won't allow a man to cum in my mouth
c) spit
d) swallow

How do you make your boundaries clear to your OH?

1. I do what I feel comfortable with
2. He just accepts my decision. No discussion, no need to 'make boundaries clear' beyond my actions.

B

Oh and he never assumed anything different so we've never needed to discuss it.

Same as purple, to be honest. I made my boundaries clear by how I act at the time. My husband respects those and we are both happy

B. I tell him what I want and he respects my wishes. Anything less would be a non-consensual sex act.

C or D, sometimes B. Whatever I feel like. I've never had to make boundaries clear with any partner, you do what you want and they should respect it

D, made clear by my actions. With things that I won't do, I tell him so beforehand.

B, D in a relationship.

Has your OH been crossing your boundaries, OP ?

D usually, sometimes B. Can't see the point of spitting as you still get the flavour in your mouth and it seems a bit rude to me.

...and no, it doesn't matter what other people do so I am not prepared to tell you my oral sex habits

do what you want to do and if someone is trying to coerce you otherwise (everybody does it/you would if you loved me etc) then send him/her back to the 1950's/school playground from whence they came

NoAmani, so true! Not all men cum from oral anyway.

B

I jokingly say to my partner 'I spent most of my 20s doing c and d whilst performing every conceivable position like L Lovelace....you have the real woman version'

We have similar odd sense of humour though.

It's usual for the man to indicate if he's close to ejaculating, giving you time to change position if you don't want him to come in your mouth.

No decent man I've been has had any problem going with whatever out of those four options I've felt like on the night. In my experience, pressurising, sulky types have the impact of putting me off blowjobs with that man permanently, and off blowjobs in general for a while.

Nice, relaxed, respectful, courteous man however = lots of blowjobs.

D but I generally know when it's imminent and can take necessary precautions if I want to. By the time it gets to that point, he doesn't really care where it ends up.

Any man who expects or pressures you into doing any of it, from A to D (and beyond!) doesn't deserve any of it. It should be a pleasure for you both and there's no way I'd do any of it unless I was enjoying it too.

b) usually as I don't like it in my mouth, or haven't in the past. Have once done c) on OH out of curiosity and it was ok, no unpleasant taste or feeling (always weird tingling/stinging in past) and I got a bit of a kick out of doing something I wouldn't normally, so might do that again now and then.

How do you make your boundaries clear to your OH? Never had any need to discuss this, I just do what I want to do, and all the chaps were very appreciative of what they got. This question makes it sound like someone is shoving themselves in your mouth by force!?

Is there any need for "making boundaries clear"? If you're the one administering said oral then you're the one in total control of what happens and when, and not the one on the receiving end, surely. That's partly the point, isn't it?

Not always that simple is it Bitter?

why not ?

Never on a Monday Morning
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A large part of the discussion we had was about tge fact that I had felt the need to tell him my boundaries (B BTW) rather than just "feeling them".

this then led to the discussion about what is "normal". I always felt I was in the minority for not wanting him to cum in my mouth. Then I feel guilty that because of me he was somehow missing out on something that shoukd be 'normal'. But I guess that is more about the way xp made me feel than DP .

Depends if I skipped lunch or not

Girlwithlionheart

I do it all when in the moment. Sometimes I don't feel like swallowing but they don't seem to mind it all over your face anyway do it all works I think.....