how can i run away from social servies ?

[Familyjustice2014]

how can we run away from social servies ?

or can we just change our names by deep poll and leave this city and live some where else ?

or could the police find us ?

we have a son toghther and we are just sick of social servies we want to run away

The haphazard tone of the posts sounds to me like someone who is very distressed and can't think straight.

OP needs to try and calm down, take a step back and look at things through the eyes of the professionals involved. He just isn't able to listen or take things on board right now.

I agree Spero. People should thank their lucky stars that their lives are calm and ordered instead of condemning people who are not so lucky.

I am not saying that the OP is faultless but I strongly suspect that he has experienced more than his fair share of disadvantage in his life.

YouAreMyRain I absolutely agree with you.

I think the 'haphazard, full-of-holes' story also speaks of someone who has not had the best education, for whatever reason and therefore has not learned the skills to put together a coherent account. Given the picture that has built up in my head of this young man, that seems entirely consistent. It doesn't scream fiction to me.

If I am right, this will also be having an impact on his dealings with social workers - if no-one has taught him the skills and vocabulary necessary to logically refute the points that social workers are raising with him, in person or in emails, he could well be finding this very frustrating, and that will feed into an anger born of a feeling of helplessness and powerlessness, and BOOM - he explodes, and the social workers see anger and lack of control, and this reinforces their decisions about the family.

Please note, I am NOT saying this to be nasty about him - I am trying to understand how things have got to where they are. It is not meant to be sneery at all.

I wonder why posters are discussing the original poster in the third person, as if he isn't here, in the room as it were. It is alienating to be treated in this way, please don't do it.

OP you are clearly, and understandably, very upset and frightened and it is natural to want to run away. But as others are clearly saying, it would be disastrous for you if you did, even tho the urge to do it is so strong because you are frightened and panicking big time. Everyone in your position wants to run away, it is very frightening to be faced with this.

BUT for the very best outcome for all concerned youMUST do everything SS say, you must show that you will cooperate completely with what they are asking of you. Everything may seem a total mess at the moment, and it will take a while to sort out, but hold on and prove to SS that you are reliable and will comply with all their demands. This is hard to do, especially when you are panicking, but do your very best. There is nowhere you can go to get away from SS so you have no choice. At the moment, what SS are doing is the best thing for your son, even tho it may not seem like it to you.

Spot On YouAreMyRain

Springy that often happens when the OP hasn't posted for a few posts (be that over hours or days).

Hello everyone,

Thank you to everyone who reported with thread to us. Can we remind everyone of our talk guidelines, particularly the bit about troll hunting? We've looked into things our end and we have no reason to believe that the OP isn't genuine.

Great post sdt I concur....

Don't run, that will make things worse. If you feel you can't express your points to the social workers then try family rights groups or advocacy to sit in on meetings with you so you have a buffer between them and you.

Thank you Kate - but what are you going to do about the absolutely vile responses to the OP as well as the abuse directed towards him.

You cant run op or at least not for long, while you can change your name and move miles away your birthdate and national insurance number are not sobering you can change so the minute you get a job and pay tax or try and get benefits you will be found. If you run your baby will be taken and you'll lose all hope of having contract. I understand that right now you're angry, frustrated and scared but you need to do enduring social services are asking. Work with them not against them, for your baby if no other reason.

The best thing is to report the posts that you think are abusive, Granny - then MNHQ will know which ones you object to, and will consider deleting them.

I hope the absence of the OP doesn't mean that he has taken his gf and her baby, and run.