social servies has destroyed our family

[Familyjustice2014]

hi in jan me and my girlfriend had an argument which next door neighbours called the police and i got arrested and i got relisead no futher action but social servies got involed and had already removed my girlfriend and our 1 month old baby and took them to her mums house but when i seen my gf she said she was sorry and they told her to move away and she was really scraed couple of days later she said she wants to move back in as she dont like her mum but she said social servies told her if she moves back they take our son away and i was only allowed to have superviesed contact with my son and my gf mum was spose to supervised the visit and she dosent like me at all so she didt let me in so i asked social servies if my dad can do the suprevised contact and they could come back and live with me and my dad be with us 24 hours they said he has to pass police check which we waited for 4 weeks and my gf mother didt like the idea so she kicked them both out and i pickd up and the next day social servies said we broken the rule and she wasent suppose to come back but where can she go if shes been kicked out so they forced to go back to her mums house then i got arrested agian for making threats which i never did
then they moved my gf and our baby to a mother nad baby unit in an secrate location i was only allowed to see my baby for 1 hour a week but after a week my gf turend up at my house and she was crying and saying she dosent like that house so i calmed her down she came to me almost everydy in secrate but 2 days before her 3 months assesment has finished they found out she was comming and they failed her and they failed me for not sharing information about she was coming to see me and thn a week later i resvied an non molestion order against me and my gf has made up lies about me and im 100 % sure she has been forced to do this as they have told her she will lose our baby if she dosent listen to them and split up with me and social servies are saying u nee dto forget about her and she dosent want to be with me but i know this is not true because she was coming to me in secrate and i have photo to prove it and i have text masseges that she said she cant hadle it in there and they are forcing her to split up with me i have attended court for th enon molestion order i have contest it i have to go back to court agian in about 1 month and im really confused wat to do on my gf statement said i have been hitting her and being volient to her but this is not true and i can prove that if i was so bad person why would she come with me andwhen we are all happy toghther the social servies wouldt leave us alone and her mum is backing her story up and she dosent like me since the day i said i wana stand up in my own feet and got a house toghther so shes trying to take them away from me social servies are nasty people they twist and turn things how the hell can they get away with it how can i take them to court ? and tell them to get away from us and how can i get my gf and my baby to come back home so we can be a family ? they have taken away her phone they have made her lie in court what can i do and i cant get silicitor as i dont have any money please help

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It would also help, as others have said, if you started to look at SS as people there to help you, not to hurt you. It wasn't social services which "destroyed" your family, whatever you put as the title of this thread. It sounds from what you have said your family was long destroyed by arguments and conflict before SS ever came on the scene. Social services have stepped in to help your son, and you need to help them do that.

As someone else has said here, work with them, not against them.

And - let go of this idea in your head of this mythical happy family, mum and dad and baby in the park all together. That's not what you had before, and that's not what you are going to get in the future. By constantly crying about that, you are pushing away the chance of a different family set up, which could work for you, your ex, and (most importantly) for your son, and which already works for loads of other people - two parents who both love their child but who have separate lives from each other.

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If you don't agree with the non molestation order then go to court and say that. The court may be prepared to accept undertakings from you, which is you promising the court that you won't behave violently in the future. This doesn't involve you admitting that you were violent in the past.

If your GF also used or threatened violence against you, she could also give an undertaking.

Undertakings are not the same as an order but if you break your promise, the court can punish you, including by sending you to prison.

There are some links here you might find helpful

www.childprotectionresource.org.uk/legal-advice/