If you read this as a status update on FB:

[PTFsWife]

'13 years ago I married my best friend, the beautiful xx, who has helped me become more adventurous and try new things, who puts up with and often laughs at my dumb jokes and pranks, has been my biggest fan and supporter in all things, has blessed me with three, pretty awesome reflections of herself and ultimately has made me a better man. Anyone that knows xx already knows how extremely lucky I am and I count my blessings every day. Happy Anniversary xx.'

This followed by a stream of well wishers gushing about how they are the perfect couple and how they are such a great example of marriage, how tempted would you be to write:

'NOOOOOOO. She is a fucking, lying cowbag who serially cheats on her husband, including my husband and another man concurrently, and doesn't think anything of cheating in her own home with her kids there.'

Obviously I won't but it galls me to see this poor man's profusion of love for her when he seems blissfully unaware of what she's done behind his back (and most likely still is doing with other men). Unless it's all a cunning disguise and he is just trying to pretend.

Sorry - just needed to get that little rant off my chest.

I only imagine the people who bleat on about their happiness on facebook as being miserable.

You're right though, of course, They might not be miserable, they might just be smug show offs, desperately needy and insecure or even have some mental health issue.

Well, they might be a lot of things.

But unless people go around wearing sandwich boards saying:

"My dh cheated but we're trying to make it work" for example, why bother about it?

You're giving her too much head space. Haven't you given her enough? Hasn't your dh? Wouldn't it be healthier to block and move on?

If I read that I'd think, what a load of bollocks and think the complete opposite of what he was writing.

Funny how you have such hatred for her but not your OH, she did you a favour alright, in letting you know that your OH is not to be trusted.

Not sure 'is not to be trusted' is fair.

'Was not' obviously.

Not all cheating husbands cheat again. It is entirely possible this is a one off.

Not all men follow the script.

Some realise what they have to lose and work hard to save their marriage. From all of the OP's previous threads I've read I get the impression her husband is one of those.

So I personally think the use of present tense is a little harsh.

OP you are ok with your dh cheating, have forgiven him and are planning a future together. Yet you are not ok with the ow cheating and have not forgiven her.

Maybe you didn't realise you felt this way but it would indicate that you have misplaced anger and have not even started to come to terms with what he did to you.

To the OP - I see your post as something very human, and I wish you and yours a lifetime of happiness.

My SIL did one of those nauseating status on New Years Day (the day she met BIL). How much she loved him and he was her soulmate...pity she forgot to mention the guy she wa about to run off with

You don't have to be "stalking" someone on facebook to see their status - if their setting is "friends of friends" and a mutual friend comments it will appear on your wall. I found out about a neighbours health issues last week exactly that way.

Op I get what you are saying and I do think some of these people have been unnecessarily harsh (don't take it personally I've seen them do the same on other threads)

Block her on FB and get on with your life.

Your husband was unfaithful to you. Reserve your simmering resentment for him.

When someone constantly declares their undying love & attraction on fb, especially if it's more than the occasional post, it is more than likely a facade to hide the reality that their relationship is actually shite

I very rarely mention my love life on fb as im happy and contented and feel no need to show off or over exaggerate my already happy relationship.

I know of a few people that have a lot of issues, but will declare on a weekly basis lovey dovey poems and shares of their undying love to impress the audience that is fb.

"she is so full of love it seems like she always has some to share. How wonderful that you're still together".

And

"She expects others to share their love too, like I recently shared my husband with her. Thanks for giving us the kick up our loved- up butts to move forward and share our love with eachother instead. Happy anniversary!"

She does it due to guilt. Obviously...

including my husband - really? not including my STBEXH??!!