Am I in the wrong.....

[HappyLelly1]

Hi guys
Just your thoughts needed please..my partners dad is having an 80 th lunch on Saturday, we are going obviously but my partner says my 15 year old daughter must attend with us, she is fine with that but has a birthday party that eve and wants to be home for 6ish, the 80th party starts at 12 so I don't think she is being unreasonable. Now I have said that for us to be back by 6 then we will have to leave around 5, but if my partner wishes to stay longer then I am happy to take my own car and bring said daughter home in time for her evening party. He has stomped off saying ffs and now will not speak to me. My question is do you think that I am being unreasonable in returning home at 5, bearing in mind I am trying to please everyone. Thanx guys

I presume you've told him it's down to his fuck-up? Don't let him get away with it.

Well he's just a peach isn't he?

Clam. Yes I pointed that out to him, it is his fault because he is the flooring expert n didn't read instructions prop as the flooring fitter informed me hahaha. He was livid n said are u saying I'm crap at my job which I replied I'm only repeating wot the fitter said, I couldn't help but laugh as it was def his mistake. It was at that point he walked away prob to try n calm down haha.

Hearts. He will blame me n say Its because I wind him up n that he is fine n there is nothing wrong with him.

Haha. Yes def a peach. Haha.

If you can get an estate agent in for an opinion then that's be good. They can advise on what's the minimum that needs to be done for maximum return. No point in doing more than you'll see returns on.

Joy. At the moment we hav no kitchen n I mean no kitchen, no water, no cooker nothing just a big empty space, so will wait til it's fitted n make my move then, it's should be done in the next 3 weeks, the rest is just decorating so shouldn't have real effect on price.

I would be 100% behind that move, as would I suspect all of MN.

It actually seems to be a fairly common abusive-man tactic: to wreck the house in some way so that it becomes difficult or impossible to move elsewhere.

Be very careful with the kitchen-fitting as it is possible that this man will make further attempts to sabotage it, as he did with the flooring. I don't think that was a mistake or an accident, I think it was a deliberate fuckup, probably to punish you some more.

And do look into getting him forced out of the house, because then you will be able to get the fixing up done without him messing things up.

I agree, definitely look into finding a way to get him removed from the house so that you can get on with it. Were any of his texts to you threatening? And have you kept them all?

God, every post you write makes him appear worse and worse! As for 'why do you not greet me at the door when I get in from work': there's a bit of a pattern of him needing to be the centre of attention and control, isn't there? This birthday isn't really about his dad- it's about you and your daughter being where he wants, when he wants.

Just read thread, how's things been? X