Oh FFS, who does that??!

[TheBookofRuth]

My two year old DD has a temperature and isn't very well. I've been up for the past two hours trying to get her back to sleep, and finally succeeded and started to go back to bed - only to walk face first into our bedroom door in the dark.

I hit it with enough force to make me fall over backwards, narrowly avoiding falling down the stairs - I'm 34 weeks pregnant. It really fucking hurt - there's a huge lump on my forehead, I have a headache, my nose and lip are sore and swollen, and I'm quite shaken up.

DH got up to see what the noise was, got me some paracetamol at my request - and then went back to bed. DD of course got woken up again by all the commotion, and was quite distressed, so he's gone back to bed and left his shocked, injured, pregnant wife to cope alone with his sick child.

Who the fuck did I marry?

Not melodramatic at all in my eyes.

My way to deal with that sort of behaviour is to clearly state what I want. Eg
I am hurting myself badly and dc is crying. DH is ready to walk away after checking I'm not too badly injured.
I would tell him to go and deal with dc. If DH grumpy I would tell him I still don't feel well enough and I wouldn't go.

It doesn't help re regaining trust BUT I think it helps setting up boundaries and when boundaries are clear, it's more likely that DH will automatically step up all on his accord

It's quite possible that he'll never get it, TheBook.

I don't think you're being melodramatic. I suspect, if anything, you're used to putting things behind you, and minimising perhaps.

You are not being melodramatic op.
Far from it.