is it me or mind games?

[dizzy101]

I'll try keep it short, me and partner been together 16 years.2 dc 9& 13. Always been a volatile relationship.both always worked up until 3 years ago when we moved to a different country.
he worked and I stayed home and did everything, cooking, cleaning etc.
about 6 mmonths ago he took attitude (I earn money, I'll spend it how I want)very selfish.
I kicked him out and struggled on.
8 weeks ago I got a good pay job and we getting on better than ever.
he moved back in and now is saying I'm all girl power, I can't cope with work and kids.
he's constantly putting me down, trying tell me my new friends are no good,belittling me.
We just had big row and I've told him go again

Who is the 'I' who can't cope with work and kids? I assume he means you although in reality it sounds like it's him. I don't know what "I'm all girl power" means unless he is a follower of the Spice Girls' brand of feminism, although frankly I don't see the Girls earning the cash and letting their partners off from doing a share of the family work.

Sounds like he dislikes you being dependent on him but dislikes even more the power that comes with you not being dependent on him. I wouldn't waste your time analysing it any more than that - he's putting you down and you're both unhappy. The reconciliation hasn't worked.

The I is apparently me,but when you work and do everything in house obviously not easy.
reconcile not working for sure.