Boyfriend of six months is on dating website

[VirginiaWoofs]

I've known my OH for a year

Scottishmummy- thanks for the responses, I still appreciate it and can take things not being sugar coated

SM I had a scottish mummy. And she'd have said the same to me.

You know what,that the mn rub.i don't have a need to tippy toe as I don't know you
I hope I'm wrong,I hope he is a good un,with a lively harmless interest in apps
Take care,tell your lassie pals get them rally round support you

That's one of the nicest posts I've ever seen from you sm

Makes me miss my own SM Talisa

Ach thanks TalisaMaegyr and akaWisey
If op were my pal I'd spring into action to support her

But anyway, OP. You'll do what you want we know that and you'll survive if it goes tits up. I'd be out with my mates tonight if it were me. You've a belly-full of MN wisdom to line your stomach. Get your mates round, go out

I know you would. You're just a bit forthright for some people sometimes. I know you're an alright bird

Aw thank you all of you! I do appreciate it; every comment! And I have some awesome friends who will be here for me if it does go tits up!

Op you said when you originally had the conversation with your OH about Tinder you both deleted the app.
So how can his profile still be active?

Deleting the app doesn't remove the profile. It just deactivates the profile. The profile still shows up in the inbox of people you've matched with, even if you delete the app.

He's looking elsewhere OP whether you choose to acknowledge that or not. For me it would be a dump, I deserve much better scenario. However you choose to try to make excuses there really is none.

If it does go tits up? He made it go tits up, no you..... dump him.

Maybe he is lining up his next bit of stuff given you are moving out in 4 weeks.

Yes it sounds like he is lining up his next woman because your moving out soon. How charming.

He agreed to do something then reneged on the deal and when caught out and challenged, he lied. Focus on this, do not get sidetracked by 'Everybody does it' and 'It's harmless fun'. If he's brazen enought to lie about it, he's brazen enough to blame you for pressuring him into agreeing to do something that he didn't agree with. Stay focused OP, if you choose to stay with this man you'll need to handle this very firmly, as you don't want to start a precendent where he blames you for his choice to lie without experiencing any consequences.

LTB is totally your call and I probably wouldn't have at your age but remember you are not responsible for his decision to lie, your responsibility lies on how much you choose to expose yourself to them.

Enjoy your break.

Haven't read the whole thread but met my ex online and he was still on the site 6months in... You can guess the rest, house, 2 dc's and he was still cheating/ searching online.

I wished I hadn't ignored the early warnings!!!!

Thats a timely warning mamadigging,are you and the weans ok now?

Oh yeah...finally had enough of his ea and cheating...ended it over a year ago now. Way too much pride to let it go on any longer.

I just think if they're doing stuff like 'flicking through tinder' after 6 months, they'll be doing a whole lot more 6 years in!!!!!

@VirginiaWoofs I am in the same situation with someone I love who has told me I'm the only girl they want and said they have not gone on Tinder, but it showed recent activity. How did things turn out? I was wondering if maybe since it's linked with facebook, that when you log onto facebook it updates the last active time on Tinder? I don't know. I just really want to be able to trust what he's telling me. :(