Boyfriend of six months is on dating website

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I've known my OH for a year

Scottishmummy- I'll see what he says firsts before I think about what to do next

Of course I'd dump 1st sign trouble,it's not called trouble for nothing

And if he says no?

Scottishmummy- yes I do think it's wrong; I'm just not sure how to approach dealing with it. At the moment I am waiting for a response from him.

Scottishmummy- so in spite of all the good things in a relationship you'd finish it as soon as you hit a bump in the road? Surely no relationship would survive that logic?

What you waiting on?you have misgivings,but yet you're deferring to him.his answer

Yes if it is enough trouble to cause this much angst. You don't trust him. That is no fun.

Depends on the bump
And maybe relationships shouldn't survive boyfriend being on a dating site

You are going to stay with him so what is the problem?

Some problems are worth working trough, some are not.

You are so young. Why waste your time with an immature man who needs his ego stroked.

You now know he's the kind of man who's always sniffing around.you know you'll stay
You've said you'll stay,you don't need to explain the machinations

Given that you are in a house share, I would be inclined to say now that you've jumped into a relationship too fast and should back off. Better that than a slow decline into mistrust and unpleasantness.

He replied with "no I haven't been on tinder? Does it show up as last active because my profile still exists and someone has messaged me?"

I don't believe this, so I don't know how to respond to be honest.

I genuinely dont think he uses tinder in any kind of serious "sniffing around" kind of way. Naive?

I'm very pissed off that he has potentially lied to me.

Oh come on he's sniffing around as of 12hours ago.poon hound
You're prepared to believe this was a technical glitch and he wasn't online?
He's playing you fir a fool girl

No I don't believe this; I said I didn't believe this response in my message above.

So he lied,what you going to do?

I don't know yet. Nothing yet. I'll probably not reply to him for a while.

no contact ?Yes that'll show him

Well, he'll know you're on to him. So you should decide soon.

On a practical level you're flat mates,what happens if things sour?

It's the fact he lied that would be the deal breaker for me.

If he text back saying yes I messages a mate on there or even admitted flirting as long as you both really wanted it to work you could get past it.

But blatantly lying? Sod that .

Scottishmummy- I'm entitled to take some time to think about things and process my emotions; that's how I deal with stuff. I'm not trying to show him anything, nor am I delaying anything. When I feel ready I'll respond.

On a practical level, our tenancy ends in four weeks and Im moving to a house share with just girlfriends.

Hilarious- yes that's what bothers me the most. If he'd have admitted it I could have forgiven more easily

Well then perhaps the timing of his Tinder activity is…an indication of his intent.

Sorry OP. I think he's a wrong 'un for you.

Op,I'm sorry for your troubles.i will call at as I see it?naturally feel free ignore me
You're in no way compelled to act on my responses,but I'm not compelled to sugar coat it
End of tenancy seems quite timely

That's not to say I will forgive him. I don't know. I'd rather talk to him in person when I see him in ten days though. I'd rather not have an argument long distance when we have never had a serious argument before.