Boyfriend of six months is on dating website

[VirginiaWoofs]

I've known my OH for a year

Right. You are going to have to front it out.

"Erm - I've seen you on my friend's Tinder account. You told me you had deleted it, but it shows you've been active recently. Are you on it again? Please tell me the truth.'

You'll see from his reaction. And then you can take it from there. Ok - if there's a chance you're wrong, you'll just have to take it on the chin.

But you DO need to speak to him asap.

Fab- that's exactly what I said to him.

I don't want to end it. There are too many good things for this one thing to be the reason we break up. If he has been back on it I will make it clear how that has damaged my trust for him.

I'll talk to him about it later and see what he has to say. I think I'll just ask him if he's using tinder again and see what he says. I think he'll be honest.

I'm not afraid- just very hurt and annoyed. Thanks for letting me talk through this; I know it's a tiny problem compared to a lot of others on this board!

This one thing? This one thing that was so important to you not so long ago?

OP. Come on. You need to decide what your bottom line is BEFORE you ask that question.

It's not a tiny problem if it's important to you OP. Be careful he doesn't tell you that this is a tiny problem of yours. He agreed to this and he broke that agreement.

It is important to me but this is the first thing that can be considered a problem in our relationship. In comparison to all the good things, it is just one bad thing. I need to decide how much this one bad thing outweighs the good.

I love him and I'm almost certain he loves me too so this is difficult for me.

I agree aka! It is very important and he can't minimalist my feelings about it. I wouldn't let him do that.

No, it's not like him leaving his pants on the bedroom floor. This sort of thing is different, and will set a precedent. Please don't let it lie.

Agree Talisa!

We'll all be here for you, you know. Just get it sorted. You'll feel so much better once you get it off your chest.

So what do you want from the thread OP?

If you don't want to end it you'll have to live with fact he's online poon hound
Who now knows he can look with impunity and you'll not end it
Great for him, dire for you

online poon hound

Yep. Dire.

I think it is a sign of the technological age. We don't need to go and trawl the pubs and clubs to meet someone, we can do it from our sitting rooms in our pyjamas - it's too easy! We have all done it in moments of boredom. See what he says, it could be harmless

Good Luck

I can sense the minimising from here.

It doesn't matter what someone does or why, if it bothers you it bothers you and you can dump them if they aren't making you happy.

Why would he want to meet anyone given he has a girlfriend and they are meant to be faithful? .

Why?because he can,because op won't split up with him,he's poon hound

LizzieBelle, we haven't all done it! What nonsense.

Talkin on bus usually goes,does this bus go near the western?aye
Not discussing some goer profile for sex, or furtle
But keep believing his excuses,it avoids you thinking the hard stuff,like he's a player

I have sent him a message saying "are you on tinder again?"
I'm away visiting relatives for a fortnight so won't see him in person for another ten days.

ScottishMummy- I haven't believed any excuses; up until now he hasn't don't anything wrong.

And what will you do with the answer?if he canny he'll say no
Then what...

Itsfab- but by that logic you'd dump someone at the first sign of trouble?

But you feel/think it's wrong,hence the posts?
If it was cool you'd no be posting