The ex husband is having a new baby - im awfully upset.

[Needsmorecake]

I do and dont know why, he told me yesterday and it was a shock, of course i told him congratulations, but, by the time he went and i got to the sofa i broke down in tears and have felt really upset since.

We were married, he left me when i was expecting, then wanted to give it a go, only to walk out when DD was 20 weeks old. Ive been on my own since then. He wanted to give it another go again, which lasted all of 9 months, and i left him as evidence of him cheating came to light.

He married the girl he cheated on me with and shes now expecting.

I meanwhile, am still on my own, with no relationships at all.

We had been trying for a baby the last time, i had an ivf referal, but that never came to anything as i left.
I cant have more children, im 36 now and still on my own, so, that chance has gone.

I feel like she stole my life, if that makes any sense. Ive struggled the whole of DD's life. I work but get a tiny bit of benefit, im skint and have been for years, yet they have all this stuff, and now they have this too.

Im also worried for DD, that she will feel pushed out, or like shes second best, or it might make her upset.

Im a bit shocked at my strenght of feeling about it, and, logically i know it will be fine and its none of my business, but emotionally, im finding it quite hard.

Does anyone have any tips for dealing with it?

[Juliestarx]

Sorry ive only just signed up and have read this thread. Im going through something very similar and its tearing me apart.
Infertile (premature menopause) at 32 years with a daughter by a cheating twatface of a bloke. Hes now found himself another bird and im left on my own getting constant but subtle crap from his family and him.
😢 I'll admit im close to breaking point.

[ThatchersCold]

Julie this is what’s known as a zombie thread as it’s years old. You’re much better off starting your own thread if you’re looking for support as otherwise you’ll get loads of people not realising it’s a zombie thread and just replying to the original poster.