I should be used to my family by now. Back story
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I went to my brothers grave last weekend and noticed the gold lettering was badly worn. So I phoned for a quote to have it restored and was told to contact the headstone owner for permission.
So I made contact with my father to ask for my step mothers permission. He replied with a no don't touch his headstone. We will do what needs to be done. I have been in tears all afternoon. I wanted to do something for my brother but my family despise me so much I am not allowed to touch it. What harm it would have done anyone I don't know. 