Sick of DH:- we're not compatible and I'm not desparate enough to be patient anymore

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I'm sick of DH being lazy around the house and not defending me when his mum and sister are sh*tty to me. Of not being respectful of me views (I'm atheist and wouldn't lie to be a godparent, for instance. He never gives me a straight answer, just lets me know I'm the one with the problem. Would I be worse off if divorced? What's the worst that can happen? Money/house/holidays/kids. C'mon Mumsnet I'm sick of this. How bad can divorce be?

My dh (while I was on maternity leave with 2 dc's under 3, one newborn) got me a cleaner then brought a young woman au pair round who was keen to take over here, while all the time I just wanted us to be a family.

He was absolving himself by throwing money at the problem because he didn't want to do it.

Dc2 wasn't even two when we separated. F the f off with your absolving yourself from family responsibility ime and imho!