Police on their way. Shit scared

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Can't name change so brief details. Separating from Stbxh still in the same house. He did something earlier this evening (not the first time), and I've just called 101. They were worried by what I said, and by my upset, and are sending someone round. Absolutely shit scared about how STBXH will react. Hand hold please...

Where is he?

I'm here. Don't know what to say except you've done the right thing and I'm staying with you.

I'm here, are you ok?? What happened? If you want to discuss x

Is there anywhere you can go - family, friends - after police have left, if you're worried about remaining in the house with him? Hope you are ok.

The fact you are shit scared of his reaction speaks volumes. Wait for the police and be honest with them when they get there. If you are scared of him (and his reaction when they leave) they you must tell them that.

You've done the right thing. The police are concerned for your welfare.

Well done for calling the police xx

Of course I'll hold your hand... But you need to stay strong now and give a statement when you need to.

Thank you. We were out and are travelling back separately. He's probably back by now. The police - amazing - are going to meet me close to home

They said on the phone he'll have to spend the night elsewhere

calling the police was absolutely the right thing.

I have had to call the police before and they removed my Ex from the house. I can't remember what arrangements were made about his return but I think he was told not to return before a certain time.

You have done the right thing.

What plans are you making about your future OP? Obviously, if it has come to this then this cant continue.

Good luck.

You have done the right thing. Tell the police everything. Good luck.

Thank you. We have DCs and co-own the house, so physical separation is tricky to negotiate. But cohabitation is just impossible

Another hand to hold here.

Glad the police are being so quick in their response.

Sorry that you're so scared. x

I so appreciate all your messages thank you. I'm not far from home, so will be offline for a while soon. I'll update later. Thank you

Well done. Doing this means a trail of formal evidence that can be used to your advantage. Be sure to give a full statement and do not attempt to withdraw it no matter what he says.

the police can still prosecute him (if appropriate) anyway.

You may be able to get a court order preventing him from returning to the house. Just because he is a part-owner of it doesn't entitle him to remain a resident in the house if he is a danger to the other people who live there. Good luck, stay safe.

Just stopping by to virtually hand hold. You have taken the first, hardest step. Stay strong now. Do it for yourself, and for your children. Well done.

Currently sat outside the house in the car, hoping the police will be here very soon. STBXH has been gaslighting me so much recently, I keep going over everything again and again in my mind, to make sure I don't get confused. Thanks to mn, I know what gaslighting and ea are, and that's it's sensible to call 101. Thank you so much for that. Will update as and when the police have been (they promised it'd be today)

Big hand hold, take care honey let us know how you are x

If you feel you need to drive off to keep safe, just do it. Don't try and engage with him.

I hope you are OK. You've doe the right thing.

Hand holding here!! Stay safe and run the fucker over if he tries anything. Is he in the house? Have you got the kids with you?

I hope they are with you now.

If you are afraid, either get out or ensure he stays out with a court order. Get to NCDV for an emergency free injunction if necessary.