NotNew I think the point is that when you're OD, you do use very simple, very quick filters to place people in the Yes/No pile.
I wasn't really suggesting that he did have that attitude, but that the use of the word might suggest that attitude and if I read in a profile that someone was looking for a 'girl', I'd close it because to me it does signify something.
I equally closed profiles where the man referred to themselves as a 'typical/average/ordinary bloke' because that's not the sort of man I want. Rightly or wrongly, I read that and see cans of lager, package holidays to Spain, football shirts, and Saturday night telly, and hear ill informed DF type opinions. Which is the antithesis of what I am looking for. They're right for someone, just not me.
Anything you can do to avoid filtering yourself out, unintentionally, is a good thing.
In my main photo I was wearing an item of clothing that I knew would be a filter. I still think it's one of the reasons I didn't get contacted by the sort of man I definitely wouldn't want, because they'd have seen that picture and immediately put me in the 'no' pile.
Those who thought, "hmm, that's a bit quirky, I'll see what she's about..." sometimes made a different decision. A lot of the first messages I received included a compliment on it, so they had noticed...
I think that as much as we might intend to include some filters, there are others that we may be unaware of.
I find what you said quite interesting/amusing (not that you've said it, but that it was the case) about the use of the Notting Hill thing, I didn't see that once!! 
and I would filter out someone who used a reference like that.
And I suppose as far as the FolkGirl moniker goes, when I'm in my 'hippy hat' and playing my guitar and singing in a folk club somewhere, or sitting in a field at a festival with my friends I do feel more like a carefree girl than the woman who makes the packed lunches and pays the bills. And sometimes I like to embrace that side of me. But it's not all that I am...