My new man has me feeling like a schoolgirl and I wanted some advice on how to play this. I don't want to mess this up and I am not very practised at dating having been in LTRs for my entire life really apart from the past year.
I'm 34, he's 38. We "met" online dating about a month ago. He lives two hours from me but I loved his profile so sent him a message anyway.
He was keen from the outset, he says from the first time we talked he cancelled his other dates and stopped chatting to other girls. After messaging for 24 hours we swapped numbers and started to phone / text and video chat. Usually for hours every day. Just easy chemistry and found each other very attractive.
Then Wednesday he decided to come up to visit for a few days, which was quite a feat for him because he had an arm in plaster and couldn't drive so it was a fair schlep for him and a four hour trip as I live quite rurally and nowhere near a direct public transport route.
He came anyway, and got a hotel nearby but never ended up staying there. It was just instant chemistry when we met. The first kiss was one of those kisses that makes you completely dizzy. He took me to lunches, dinners, romantic walks. We watched videos and he held my hand. The perfect three days!
He also came to a work even with me on Saturday morning instead of leaving and met a couple of my friends which I thought was very sweet. When he came he'd got me a silly, sentimental but really thoughtful gift too. The sex was great, the chatting was easy and we were laughing the whole time.
However, he left yesterday morning and I have hardly heard from him since and I felt a bit rejected. I did get a text on the train down to say he was a bit sad to have to leave and he needed to get his arm better so he could drive, then after that nothing.
I know he was out Saturday night with friends he had not seen in a while, and he did post to my FB page (liked all my photos, made comments etc.) and then sent a drunk message late at night saying he was sorry but he was drunk with lots of kisses.
I am not sure if I am being completely paranoid, but while things look very positive in some aspects, I was also disappointed that he did not call or text me more than he did last night and also that he's not set up anything firm to see me again.
I was wondering if seeing me in the flesh was a disappointment for him.
Am I paranoid?
Please don't tell me to ask him, because I think he is a slow mover and any questions like that he'd find offputting.
Not felt like this since I was about 17 and am not sure how to handle it at all!