I have name changed, mainly out of embarrassment as I have previously written about my 'fantastic' husband. My DH has always been very good and kind, but over the last week (we have been together 15 years with two children aged 4 and 1) he has announced that he is going to keep half his wages for himself. I am a SAHM who relies on him completely to pay for everything - mortgage, bills, groceries.... I can't believe he would do this to me, and his family!! He also said if he progresses any further in his career the he will keep any extra that he has earned. I can't believe he would do this to his children.
He also is drinking very heavily lately, and he gets extremely verbally abusive. This is a very recent thing (within the past three months) as before he used to almost never drink.
I doubt very much there is another woman, but cannot guarantee it. He does work very hard at his job but recently seems to resent providing for his family and me.
I don't think I can forgive this. He had promised when I was pregnant with DD1 that he would ALWAYS give everything to us, his family. Now he is reneging on that, I feel he has betrayed us.
I told him I wouldn't stay with him if he tried this on, and he said that I am obviously only with him for his money!!!! Is he stupid?? WHY would I stay with a man who promised to provide for his children (and I gave up MY career when he said that) only to take it all back?! Are they supposed to live in poverty while he lives it up??
I was in absolute shock yesterday when it all came out. I went from thinking I had a good husband to thinking that he has turned into a complete selfish idiot almost overnight.
I don't really know what advice I am asking....I suppose I am just utterly confused as to why this man could so quickly change like this. I feel like I have never known him and if he doesn't do something to make COMPLETE amends, then I know I will leave. No way will I put up with this!