Help - husband

[sykes]

Redundancy is rather failing into insignificance -update on that later if anyone is interested. But my h has just sent me an e-mail asking if I want him to come back. HELP, HELP, HELP.

But ignoring him will probably irritate him more sykes. If you felt like being childish of course.

Good point - and I am EXTREMELY childish at the moment. I want to make him buy my nanny a very expensive jacket - I bought her a bracelet - it was her birthday this week. Shall I ignore the meeting thing and just ask him to go to a certain shop and buy it for her?

If it feels like 95% wanting him to f off, the I would say it... if he is serious one little outburst shouldn't put him off, and he SHOULD expect it... It might bring him down to reality cos he obviously isn;t quite there yet.
You have a ball breaking weekend and continue crunching next week upon your return.
Much strength my dear

Yes get him to buy it for her, gifts for everyone

I'm not playing games, Beety, honestly although it may sound like that. I was actually thinking of leaving work early to buy it for her myself. FF, what can I get him to buy you? Okay, maybe I am being a bit silly - but she does deserve the jacket.

I'm with Beety. The main question needs all your focus, strength and clarity, don't get tempted into diverting antics and games, however appealing they are in fantasy!
(You can work all that out of your system throwing wine over men in Brighton as FF suggests).

Sorry Sykes, was slow with my message - X posting.

Point taken.

Do you think I should ask him to buy me a jacket/slam the joint credit card in Brighton?

Do you want sensible advice here, or me

You're worried about The Best day Of Your Life at the Stockport Registry Office, aren't you, FF?

Hi Sykes.I hope you had a fab weekend in Brighton and managed to put this out of your mind.If only for a nano-second!I am following this thread and just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you.
You are so strong-whatever the outcome of this latest development you will know in your heart that it's right. Time has enabled you to deal with this properly.I hope you dd is OK.We struggle on through because we are mothers and we know they will get through and respect us and love us for it. Lots of love XXXXX

Spook - how was London?? Hope you enjoyed it. I had an absolutely brilliant time. Shopping and lots and lots of alcohol.

Hi Sykes.It was OK.I'm still in the stage where going elsewhere is hard.Same head,different place. My eldest is very difficult at the moment.He's just so angry.Luckily our friends know us so well it was not a problem to have a 7 year old screaming how much he hates me and the whole world. And ofcourse my h thinks I'm exagerrating everything.My friend said she will speak to him today and point out how disturbed the boys are.Understandably.
Have you had any feedback from your friends on what lies behind your ex-h motives??

Sorry about your son. Haven't spoken to friends as yet - will do today. My h thought I dramatised my elder dd's trauma etc until she went completely ballistic in front of him one w/end - also friends have spoken to him about how upset she was. They just don't want to get it. It is hard going away for hte first time - I spent all last year doing that and even took them away on my own for August bank holiday - and really enjoyed it. But it takes a long time. Have you told your son's school? My dd's school were very supportive and sensitive to her feelings.