Im done. Not putting up with this anymore.

[VitoCorleone]

Threw DP out. He got drunk and started on me (yet again) complete character assassination. So tonight I'm a 'lazy fucking cunt' because, ya know, he works and i don't so i should be waiting on him hand and foot, apparently i do nowt (maybe the fairies come and do the washing/hoovering/food shopping whilst im asleep??

He deserves 'better' according to him. And he's "tried so hard to love" me and i couldn't get anyone better than him.

Nice eh? I'm swinging between crying and being angry. Ive had enough

Imo stay damn angry!! You've had a lucky escape and have done the right thing

Well done you.

NO one deserves to be treated like that. You are better off without him

Its every time he gets drunk. The trigger of this argument? We're supposed to be going on holiday to Spain (not booked it yet though) and in the past ive mentioned how much id love to go to Florida or Rome and in the past ive said im not keen on Spain. So, according to him ive put him under massive pressure, that ive made him feel not good enough and that im a snob

This is dispite me saying in the past that it doesn't matter where we go i just love holidays. We even went to Spain last year!

He says i don't look after him, i told him i wasn't put on this fuckin earth to look after him

He's just text me saying he's never leave me. WTF? He's really drunk.

Sorry for rambling here i have nobody else to tell so need to get it off my chest.

Ugh. That's awful. Bordering on abusive.

Think you dodged a bullet there.

He's texting me saying 'your a lazy fucking cunt - but i wouldn't want anybody else' and then he rang (i ignored) and left a voicemail saying not to text him back because he's too drunk to read the texts and he's going to bed.

(he has a flat)

Now in crying wondering why should i be with somebody who has to "try" to love me :( what a horrible thing to say, i have 2 children with this man and this is what i get?? Fuck this

Change the locks!!

You have done the right thing - well done.

Why does he have a flat? You know the answer ltb.

your a lazy fucking cunt - but i wouldn't want anybody else

Christ! What a fucking charmer. This is designed to have just enough carrot and stick to keep you in your place. Who cares what he wants? Why would you want to be with someone who so incapable of respecting you?

We split up a while back and he moved out. We got back together but he had a 12 month lease so we decided to just live apart. He says he doesn't even miss living here with me :(

Since hes got his flat, thats easier to finish it?

"every time he gets drunk"

Nobody can successfully manage a nasty drunk.

He has a superiority complex. He thinks that because he never stops, works 7 days a week then constantly has to be on the go after work then everybody should be like that, then complains that he does everything (nobody is fucking forcing him to do anything)

He said that he's "better" than me. Whatever that's supposed to fucking mean.

So why are you 'with' him?

He's definitely not better than you. Anyone who calls their dp a cunt, is not better than them.

He has delusions of grandeur.

Honestly, the man's a fool.

Do you need to change the locks?

Leave the keys in the doors half turned in case he does the indignant thing and tries to get back in. If he comes back then ring the police and have him taken to the cells to sober up.

Sleep on it and do the proper planning tomorrow.. it really does sound as if he should stay in his flat for good.