online dating - how long to meet up?

[Sassy777]

Met a really nice guy online dating a couple of days ago. Been emailing and now texting loads (even texted me when he woke up this morning) but neither of us have suggested meeting up yet! My friends keep telling me to wait for him to ask as he might think I'm too forward if I do it... I just want to meet him and see if the chemistry is there in real life like it is online...

Ask him out!! I met my husband online, and I asked him out after just a couple of emails back and forth. Just a simple 'Are you free next Weds for a drink' kind of thing. If he's busy then the ball's in his court to suggest another date.

"Morning x, hope your day is going well so far. Do you fancy meeting for a coffee at some point over the next few days?"

Job done.

When I met up with my online date I knew I'd be so nervous so suggested a drink in a pub - I knew I'd need alcohol to settle my nerves!! He had arrived in his car so obviously wasn't drinking and he just watched me get sillier with every glass of wine

Our date actually lasted 6.5 hours

Well?! Have you asked him?

Agree with others, ask to meet him sooner rather than later. I had real chemistry with a guy on-line who I texted for quite a while (because we lived quite a long way apart), when we met there was no chemistry for me not helped by the fact he'd significantly exaggerated his height on his profile which meant I was at least 4 inches taller than him

@ snowgirl I had a similar thing happen to me in that I agreed to meet a guy that I'd been texting for ages and when he turned up he was nothing like his pictures. I actually didn't recognise him when he walked into the cafe. Even when he walked up to me I didn't click on that he was my date. I think he was hoping that by texting so much I'd 'fall for him' so that it wouldn't matter when we actually met that he wasn't who he'd portrayed himself to be. At the end of the date he asked if he could see me again so I told him very politely, absolutely not! I was not impressed with what he had done at all. He eventually confessed his photos were almost 8 years old

He asked me tonight!! We're meeting next week. Really hope he's as nice IRL as he is online :)

My boyfriend and I had been speaking online for a day and after several hours of long messages, we were in the process of maybe arranging to meet up for a drink the next week, then I got stood up and asked him out that night for a "quiet drink"
As it stands, I am his first and (hopefully!!) last online date

Hurrah!

Yay! Ooh exciting!!!

What are you doing and what are you going to wear?

Just going for coffee and will be wearing what I usually wear which is skinny jeans, pumps and a nice top

Oh how exciting!! You will have to come back and update us! I'm going put this thread in my "Threads I'm watching" list to make sure I don't miss hearing how it went

Ooooooooo

Yes will definitely update you all!

When are you meeting him?

Wednesday :)

Rule of OLD - always meet before the week is out if you can. Protracted email/text conversations often lead to disappointment. I had a long period of text contact pre-date with a Tinder-er - he'd clearly built up an idea of who he thought I was before we met, and seemed shocked that I didn't conform to that (e.g. he assumed that I'd have a "foreign" accent from looking at my skin colour in pics. I'm born and brought up in the UK so was slightly baffled!).
Very easy to make assumptions based on pics/carefully worded profiles, glad to hear you're meeting him IRL OP :)

Have just deleted the f*cker from my phone. Reckon he's found someone else as he's ignoring my messages and I know he's seen the 2 I've sent as it was on WhatsApp.

So weird - he was so full on even all day Saturday getting excited about our date and if he could text me later etc... then nothing!

Dont take it personally, it happens more often that not. Rest assured its him, and there will be some reason... unlikely hes met anyone else,as most men dont get many messages doing online dating, more likely hes married, or in a long term relationship and was just doing it for the thrills, or, never ever had any intention of meeting, hence not asking you for ages.

i got chatting with a guy on Thursday - met him for 5 mins that evening just to say hello when we were both on our ways out somewhere.

saw him on friday and saturday, and spent the day/night with him yesterday. for now, this is all lovely but i'm not naive enough to emotionally invest. for now, i'm enjoying the company and just having someone to hang out with...

He said he split up with his ex 8 months ago (17 year marriage). But who knows... could be lying.

I feel so stupid and really quite sad as he seemed so nice!!

But will learn from this. I've had a lot of messages from other blokes - will go and read them now! How pathetic am I... not talking to anyone else at the same time as him!

When did you send the messages? Give him a chance, he might be at work!

No, not at work. He's a policeman and was on the night shift last night, til 3am... so is back at work at 6pm.

I think it was all the attention he gave me that made me go all silly and girly... argh! Gullible!

Also, he went from texting constantly to nothing.