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MN Jury decision required please

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 01/05/2014 17:41

My exH left about 20 years ago never to be seen again. So I'm clearing out an old bookcase and find a decorative little prayer book with a hand-written message in it from his much loved late Granny, presented to him on the occasion of his confirmation. (BTW Anyone making 'aawwww' noises can leave now) I have no idea what to do with it.

Do I

  1. Chuck it on the fire and risk the wrath of Granny/God/Tooth Fairy?
  2. Donate it to the charity shop?
  3. Keep it?
  4. Find his address (no idea where he lives) and send it back to him?
  5. Find the address of one of his less odious relatives and send it to them to pass onto him?
  6. Something else? (Feel free to be creative)
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rabbitrisen · 01/05/2014 18:16

While you are doing your acts of kindness, have you got other things to pass onto him?
saves you doing random acts of kindness a second time!

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Minion100 · 01/05/2014 18:17

Having read a lot of your posts you seem like the person who could not sleep easy at night if you didn't do the right thing. Even if the other person is a complete tosser.

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RyanGoslingsSecretWife · 01/05/2014 18:19

eBay........

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Handywoman · 01/05/2014 18:19

Track him down, use it as an excuse to proposition him, for old time's sake. Only kidding!! Bin it ahem oh no, sorry, 5. Sticks in the craw a bit but yes, 5.

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BeforeAndAfter · 01/05/2014 18:19

I'd go for option 5 - no note, no return address. Envelope would be addressed to ex c/o less odious rellie

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Corygal · 01/05/2014 18:21

5 but don't accidentally put your contact details in it.

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Minime85 · 01/05/2014 18:22

5 for me

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Appletini · 01/05/2014 18:24

Why don't you give it to your local church and ask them to decide what to do with it?

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neiljames77 · 01/05/2014 18:27

No 6. Read it. Salvation lies within, my child.

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FourForksAche · 01/05/2014 18:30

1 ditch it, if it was important to him he'd have taken it. its not your problem.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 01/05/2014 18:30

Given that he used to live here, unless he's forgotten his own address, my contact details aren't much of a secret. :)

Read it? I would but I'm not sure the bolt of lightning and accompanying fireball that would take me out for being a Damned Atheist is covered on the house insurance....

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FourForksAche · 01/05/2014 18:34

an atheist being attacked by an act of God Grin Grin that's tickled me.

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AnandaTimeIn · 01/05/2014 18:34

I would give it to the charity shop, that way someone would enjoy it and you don, t need to go near any rellies...

Let sleeping dogs lie and all that..

And yes, you do give great advice.

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Tinks42 · 01/05/2014 18:43

As it's a lovely little prayer book why not pop it into your local church?

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sadwidow28 · 01/05/2014 18:50
  1. You were blinded by a flash of hindsight and dropped it. The archangel of foresight gathered you in his wings and declared that ..................




............... you would never see the confirmation book again!
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sadwidow28 · 01/05/2014 18:51

P.S. I am a practicing catholic rofl

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aylesburyduck · 01/05/2014 19:09

5 from me too.

Just because I'm a sentimental old tart. Grin

He's probably forgotten about it but it's a nice thing to do to return it.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 01/05/2014 19:20

5 and only if you actually know the address of any of his less odious relatives. If not I would say option 2.

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LuluJakey1 · 01/05/2014 19:40

5- no note. Just post it addressed to him c/o them.

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Lweji · 01/05/2014 19:42

I'd bin it or give it to a charity shop.
Definitely wouldn't want to wake up the dog on this one.

(reminds me of the time I sent exH a christmas present on DS's behalf - not happening again)

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 01/05/2014 19:44

Bad Cog that would be funny... no no not a good idea.

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pilates · 01/05/2014 20:01

5

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chaseface · 01/05/2014 20:04

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yoyo27 · 01/05/2014 20:10
  1. He could've spent years looking for it!!!
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bluesolveig · 01/05/2014 20:16

I'd bin it without a second thought.

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