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If a man you were dating turned up wearing this...

100 replies

Ladyfoxglove · 19/04/2014 20:06

Superman top (long sleeved blue top with a big 'S' on the front)

would you dump him?

Forth date.

I'm horrified.

OP posts:
TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 20/04/2014 23:08

Another who wouldn't be bothered by it

But you don't like him so let him go free into the wilds where the geek girls roam.

LuluJakey1 · 20/04/2014 23:21

I buy OH nice things to wear but he manages to turn them into looking like all of his other things somehow. It's just his innate style I think. I find it quite endearing and attractive now. It's just him. Although the Bradford City strip does nothing for me and I tumble dried a wool cardigan he thought was very 'in' and unfortunately it shrank and turned into felty stuff. Pity!

Sometimesbrunette · 21/04/2014 00:00

It's just a t-shirt!!

andyfromotley · 21/04/2014 00:40

dont worry if you carry on like this over a t shirt he'll dump you soon enough.

halfwildlingwoman · 21/04/2014 08:36

No, I would like it. If he turned up in a Nazi uniform or a t-shirt with a sexist/disablist/racist slogan I would. Or if I discovered he voted Tory.

Ledkr · 21/04/2014 08:38

Isn't it meant to be ironic?
My dh wears a transformers top sometimes and he loves his marvel belt I bought him.
He's very stylish too.

GemmaPomPom · 21/04/2014 08:39

Ha ha! Good for him. I like a bit of individuality, it wouldn't bother me at all. Better than living in boring polo shirts.

BalloonSlayer · 21/04/2014 08:45

I don't think it would bother me and Judgemental and Fussy are my middle names.

As someone else said I would be more put off by the Superdry - am gobsmacked by the sheer numbers of people who just have to follow that particular herd.

TBH: fourth date, I'd say you have either slept with him or are considering whether to - this is clearly your subconscious giving you a big NO.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 21/04/2014 08:52

Wow, I never realised t-shirts were such a contentious issue. No, it wouldn't bother me one bit, but then my 37yo husband lives in Transformers and Iron Maiden t-shirts anyway.

It sounds like you just don't fancy him, so there's no point continuing to date him.

Mandy2003 · 21/04/2014 08:55

Fathers For Justice Grin

You didn't have to stop him climbing or chaining himself to anything while on the date did you?

Quinteszilla · 21/04/2014 08:55

Why anybody would want to date a bloke who enjoys sitting watching football is beyond me.

MozzchopsThirty · 21/04/2014 09:09

I agree that little things can put you off in the beginning of a mediocre relationship

If he was amazing I don't think the tshirt would bother you that much

He's not the last single man on earth, dump and move on Grin

LizzieVereker · 21/04/2014 09:14

But a lot of people don't think about clothes that much - he's probably just gone into Topman or wherever blokes shop, picked up 7 T shirts and thought "that'll do".

Not suggesting that that means you should date him, OP, he's obviously not your cup of tea, and that's fair enough.

Genuine question - What's wrong with watching football? Confused

Minime85 · 21/04/2014 09:24

think it would depend on how old he was

Minime85 · 21/04/2014 09:26

as in if he was over 50 I might wonder about his choice of clothing. I really don't think it bothers me. its about the person.

LuluJakey1 · 21/04/2014 09:30

I was with someone 14 yrs older than me for 2 years - I was early 20s- and I have to admit, shallow as it sounds, the cream, soft, slip on shoes and matching shade trousers along with the sun glasses, were mortifying. He made me laugh and was really witty but the clothes just illustrated the age gap. Actually, he turned out to be a bastard in lots of ways and if I had taken notice of my gut instincts over the shoes (and the white Ford Mondeo which he thought was a really cool car) I would have ended it much earlier and not had to deal with all the crap. He thought he was flashy and liked to be seen as so. Infact, he was cheap and just bothered about 'surface' things. Reading this back that's how I sound but I'm not!!!!! (I have already admitted to OH wearing Bradford City strip and finding it endearing).

BitOutOfPractice · 21/04/2014 11:33

Quintszilla dunno, I'll ask my BF why he's dating me as I love sitting watching football. Him not so much.

OP, I woldn't dump him for the T shirt. I'd dump him because you clearly don't like or fancy him. I think that if you really like / fancy someone then you can get over terrible clothes. If you don't, then every little thing grates.

ParkingFred · 21/04/2014 20:41

Nooo! Superman t shirt and a belly?

I would dump for both. You can be shallow at this stage of the relationship.

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Ladyfoxglove · 28/04/2014 13:17

Mandy2003 Grin not that I'm aware of.

As other posters have said, I think he thinks it's amusing and trendy. I just think it's a bit naff actually. he's a big burly bear of a bloke and it just looks wrong. On Justin Theroux it would look funky and cool (possibly).

Yes, I am shallow and yes, I let him down gently reader so he is off, free to get together with a more suitable and appreciative woman.

I don't like the mid-forties Superdry clones either. They're everywhere! Still, I'm sure if and when I meet the right man, I won't care what he's wearing.

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wannabesedated · 28/04/2014 13:36

I'd like a Superman shirt (I am 30 and wear Thundercats Converse) but not a shiny blue Adidas jacket, bleurgh.

PipkinsPal · 28/04/2014 14:40

I'm 46 and I want converse. Pink or red ones. The Superman tee-shirt Hmm not sure about that one. I always check that potential dates don't possess grey jogging bottoms though. I would definitely dump (but probably stand up) someone who turned up wearing those monstrosities.

Mandy2003 · 28/04/2014 17:27

Ah, you threw him back OP? The Toyboy wore a pair of greyish blue jogging bottoms the other day, of that alarming baggy style. Normally wears navy or black. As he's very easily excited(!) I did wonder how he was going to cope all day Shock

Cocolepew · 28/04/2014 17:56

I'd love a snoopy tshirt, the one I had shrunk in the tumble dryer, dd has it now Sad.

Dh had an ACDC t shirt on yesterday and today I'm wearing Blondie Converse and a Ramones tshirt.

We're both 46. A look quite spiffing Smile

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Ladyfoxglove · 29/04/2014 14:01

Funnily enough, this bloke also turned up in light grey jogging bottoms on the third date. I was stunned (and not in a good way).

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kentishgirl · 29/04/2014 17:56

I'd love the superman T-shirt but clothes are all part of who we are and how we present ourselves and our personalities, so it it's putting you off, he isn't for you. If he was Mr Right he could turn up wearing a sack and you wouldn't care.

Well sort of. I blush with guilt when I remember the absolutely lovely man I knew who I hit it off with fantastically personality-wise. We became friends. When he asked me out after a couple of months, I just couldn't go out with a man who wore slip on grey shoes and a dorky parting. Just couldn't do it. So shallow...

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