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What are we grateful to our DH/DPs for?

33 replies

keely79 · 14/04/2014 23:04

Was thinking about this after reading an article saying that we should all make more of an effort to say thank you in relationships to make the other person feel appreciated and noticed.

I'm grateful for a lot of stuff that DH does - doing high proportion of childcare as my hours are longer, being a great Dad, making me feel loved etc.

However, at present, am feeling especially grateful to him - he has just finished a mammoth project sinking a trampoline into the ground in the back garden. A true labour of love for our two children - he had to dig a 15ft wide hole that was about 4ft deep, drywall it, add drainage and airpipes, and then lay turf around. And he did it all by hand. The children are in heaven.

What about you?

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mummyOF4darlings · 14/04/2014 23:44

Well im in a pretty new relationship and we dont get to see each other as much as we would like.

But already what im greatful for is just the little things really he will ring me on an evening and we chat and have a giggle, i wake up to a morning txt from him its lovely to feel special again and know that he is genuinely interested in ME and not just after sex like with past guys ive seen, so yeh atm really greatful for that as little as it is. Like i said still early days and i know it could stop at any time so enjoying it and feling special while i can :)

gamerchick · 14/04/2014 23:53

Just for being him.

passmethewineplease · 14/04/2014 23:54

For being him. soppy got

melanie58 · 14/04/2014 23:55

For running off with another woman, so that the scales could fall from my eyes and I could realise that my life would be much more fulfilling without him. I didn't think that at the time, but definitely do now.

HillyHolbrook · 14/04/2014 23:58

Let's me sleep in every morning (he leaves for work at 5am) but sends me a 'good morning, I love you' text so I wake up knowing he's thinking of me.

Puts up with all my flaws quirks and supports me and tries his best to 'get' me. He knows I didn't have the greatest home life growing up, and understands my need for stability and reassurance and gives me that without me needing to ask. I know he's going to be there when I need him.

Does all the washing up because I'm scared of floaty food bits and all the clothes hanging. I wash and dry bung shit in machines and he puts all the things away because he knows I hate it.

Being my friend and putting me first. If I'm feeling a down he will make plans for us to go on a date and have some quality time, or order a Chinese online on his way home so it arrives shortly after he does, usually with wine and flowers in hand, as a surprise. He's so lovely

sleepyhead · 15/04/2014 00:15

For doing the mornings with the dcs whenever he can, and on those mornings bringing me coffee in bed.

He does waaaaaay more than his fair share of mornings. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

(I do all the night wakenings, but I know he'll keep on doing mornings even once interrupted nights are a thing of the past).

MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 15/04/2014 00:41

For putting up with me for the last 26 years!

For the text every day 'Morning.. love you..' ( he gets up and leaves before I'm up for my job)

For being Daddy to our four kids, someone they totally rely on even though they are nearly grown up. This week DD2 turned 20, was home from Uni, and had a rather BIG night out. When he heard a clunk in the night.. it was dd2 falling off the loo, naked,plastered and puking, he gently lifted her up, wrapped her in a duvet without once worrying about it, and cleaned up so when I woke there was no sign of her drunkeness. He is such a good man and I am very lucky to have him!

MistressDeeCee · 15/04/2014 01:28

For loving my children and putting his heart into being a father to them, as opposed to their prick of a father who I split with years ago, with his empty promises and tightfisted ways with money.

For always having my back. We have our ups and downs as couples tend to, mostly because he can be a cantankerous git when he is ready. Thankfully not often. He's kind loving and generous, I love all that about him. & that he always shares the housework and won't ever let me do what he considers 'heavy work'. He's the 'Mr Nice' I always wanted and Im glad life sent him my way

BOFster · 15/04/2014 01:54

For restoring my faith in human nature.

MooseBeTimeForSpring · 15/04/2014 02:13

For his line of work giving us the opportunity to be sponsored to emigrate to Canada, where things are that getting better and better.

ItsNotATest · 15/04/2014 02:17

Washing my car

He's no angel (who is). But he's a bit of a star in many ways. He also does all the cooking... I really hate cooking

DaleyBum · 15/04/2014 02:22

He saved my life. Literally.

Atbeckandcall · 15/04/2014 03:52

For always doing his best. Whether it's DIY, his work or looking after dd. DH is actually quite wonderful (especially as he does the washing up, which I HATE). He is pretty lovely, too nice a chap for me, I can be a huge bitch.

PurplePotPlant · 15/04/2014 04:00

For having clearly watched Bridgit Jones in the past and taking on board the mantra 'I love you just the way you are'.

Chottie · 15/04/2014 04:55

For loving me unconditionally warts and all for 40 years :)

Squeakyheart · 15/04/2014 04:58

For not losing it when I left my phone at home and my friends text didn't go through to his phone (unbeknownst to us), so he didn't know I was staying for tea. He had no idea where DD 10 weeks and I was for two hours! I would have lost it if it was the other way around, he is so calm and just brilliant!

Best1sWest · 15/04/2014 05:46

Opening the garage door for me every night so I can drive straight in and parking his own car on the drive so I never have to scrape ice off mine.

daisychain01 · 15/04/2014 07:31

Practical stuff -
DP cooks, I wash up coz he can turn the kitchen into a tsunami.
He puts bins/recycling out. Lawn mowing/weeding, he leaves the nice planting jobs to me.
He does the "digging of ditches, rewiring light switches" industrial jobs. Safer really, I would struggle to know which end of the screwdriver to use,

Emotional stuff -
He came to my rescue when my DH died a few years ago. He was generous and trusting to let me share in his DS's life from day 1. It was through losing my DH that I realised how much of a blessing a relationship can be (if it's a good one).

Ringing me up when he goes away, just to let me know he's got there safely (coz he knows I worry too much).

DP gave me a reason to want to rebuild my life. Words are inadequate to describe how much he contributed to my life.

daisychain01 · 15/04/2014 07:34

contributes

MysweetAudrina · 15/04/2014 07:43

For taking this week off work and painting all of downstairs the colours I chose and for coming on a 5km run with me yesterday morning even though he doesn't run.

NearTheWindymill · 15/04/2014 07:55

Being him and being with me for nearly 27 years. Being loyal, kind and hardworking. For using reason with DS when I am beyond it.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 15/04/2014 07:56

For being a great father to dd and ds - for being a partner with me in this huge task of parenting.

For having a steady and interesting job which he can do fairly cheerfully and which pays the bills as well as being a good example of what is possible to the DC

For being a good lover - who makes me feel loved

For liking some cool things and sharing them with me - sharing much of my taste in music, laughing at some of the same things, sharing a love and deep knowledge of nature, and making some great friends together through the years.

For respecting that I have my own interests and friendships too

For being a basically good person who for example is always on the side of the under dog, and like me is a pacifist, though unfortunately he doesn't always bring this aspect to our relationship

So, not perfect, but certainly a lot to appreciate, especially in raising our DC together (not always the right choice for everyone I'm well aware) x

artagnan · 15/04/2014 09:00

For being extremely wise with his money in the years before we met - so despite the housing market being mental, we were in a good position to buy in London.

For being generous - with his time, finances and attention.

LittleMissDisorganized · 15/04/2014 09:11

For believing in me when I had no self worth, and then nursing me when I was ill, and giving me the space to grow into someone well and with self esteem and strength, and working with me as the dynamic of our relationship changes.
He does so much practically - though I am disabled the scales are even then more stacked in my favour. I have shared my worst and my most vulnerable with him and it is all in safe keeping.

VelmaD · 15/04/2014 09:23

For not just loving my little quirks, but embracing them. For his amazing support and love this week with health problems. For being on the end of the phone when im hyper or crying or just hiding from the kids for a bit.

He is a fairly new relationship, nine months, but I have never found someone I can honestly be myself round, even my ex husband. I can be honest, quirky, silly, stroppy or selfish and he knows that I need a hug or space. And he can do the same. The honesty. Im grateful for the honesty.

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