The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home.

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat :)

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? :)

Hey Babes, tis me, Mouse

Just popping in, sorry I'm not giving anything to you all right now, we're on our way to the funeral of our unofficial beautiful, precious Goddaughter, she was only 3 .

So I better get myself ready for the heartache and pain ahead.

See you all soon xxx

Take care Mouse.

Long time lurker cheering on everyone tackling their personal drinking issues.

Thinking of you today Mouse

Thinking of you mouse

Day 4, not doing so well on the eating front, still have a load of chocolate that I'm nibbling at. I'm trying to moderate it, I'm tempted to think 'oh I'll eat it all to get it out of the way' but I've done that too many times with wine. Finished a bottle to have a clean start the next day only to go and buy more....

mouse your in my thoughts xxx

mouse hope the funeral went as best as it possibly could and the parents coped somehow RIP little one.

Spanna I relate to the need to get your shit together, I hate those bog breath mornings too. Glad you are joining in, definitely a case of the more the merrier

anne I did smile at your 'eat it and get it over with' comment. That once it is gone it can't keep calling out from the cupboard to remind you it is there! I know exactly what you mean and have fallen foul to wine/chocolate on this basis so many times. Well done on day 4.

Waves to obrigada, JWIM, baby and all other babes.

spanna nice to have you back, beaches and faire my fridge is fully stocked with super healthy food so it's onwards and downwards, day 3 AF and as always it's one day at a time xxx

Mouse I'm thinking of you today x

Beaches Day 1 nearly done and I 'completed' on the flat but removal company's earliest date to move our stuff out of storage is next Wednesday Anyway it's done and I collect the keys in the morning, woooo hooooo

Baby the contents of your fridge sound 'lovely' well done for Day 3 Babe

Anneis Day 4 is fab, go girl

Have a good evening all Brave Babes x

spanna great news on the flat, new beginnings eh!! annie day 4 is amazing, don't be too hard on yourself, choc is better than wine, whatever gets you through the night as they say. I'm just going for a bath, struggling tonight, I hate myself for saying it but the evenings are a bit flat without wine, spending my wine hours doing washing and tidying up which ain't much fun but I was way behind on the housework front so I guess it's all good, just feeling restless and bored and can't concentrate on anything. I also have a thumping headache which I'm sure is down to detoxing which is a bit worrying, hope tomorrow will be better, not sleeping great either but I guess this too shall come to pass. Love to all xx

baby the evenings definitely are hard without the 'reward' of wine, there is no obvious turning off/relaxing time. I hope that the detox and headache recede soon and you start feeling better. I am on day 2 and just beginning my evening. Have already showered so no need to bath....unless things get desperate! Hope you get a good nights sleep tonight.

Spanna hooray on the flat! Shame the removal company are so slow but you can count down the days now and know that the damp place is almost over. You will be on day 7 then too

Morning all, day 4 and I'm going for the whole week, I'm off to the gym and the sun is shining which defo helps motivate me, hugs to all on the bus or in the sidecar, it's not easy xx

Great news about the flat spanna, I bet you'll find af days alot easier once your settled in :)

baby I totally get feeling a bit lost in the evenings without a glass of wine. It's like I can spend all day doing stuff round the house, come the evening I don't want to settle down with the ironing!

Well, I have about 6 weeks to hope for a miracle before I am made redundant. I am the main breadwinner. Dd1 still lives at home. Dd2 is at uni, Ds at high school.
I don't know how we will pay the bills or what we will live on.
We have spent the last 10 years haulingf ourselves out of debt, penny by fucking penny, to the point where we could afford days out, new clothes, treats.
And here we go again.......
Cheers!

That is grim Ma if it's a done deal, I would have a look at all outgoings, energy suppliers etc on Moneysavingexpert. Good advice on balance transfers, cheap energy deals etc (sorry you probably know this already) If you haven't had a cull of your stuff recently, how about an ebay selling splurge? sorry not all that helpful I hope some good answers come soon

Day 2 done here wasn't easy DD2 really playing me up (I feel much more relaxed when I've had a glass or 2 and let her get away with alot more) this needs addressing. So she went to bed shouting at me to 'go away' (full volume and alot) not good in a flat (poor neighbour upstairs)

Anyway Good Night all Brave Babes love and light to you all x

ma I am really sorry to hear you are facing redundancy, and so suddenly too . That is a lot of worry on your shoulders. I hope there is a chance of finding another position soon.

Well done spanna and baby. Day 3 for me and it is getting harder, I think it is that fresher feeling after a few days that leads me to wanting a reward. . Tomorrow, being Friday will probably be even worse - not that I am projecting at all!

Hi to Anne and all babes. It also looks like St. George forgot his

Day 3 and Friday not a good combination at all !!!! Anyway I will take one hour at a time - witching hour will be at around 4pm - may have to take some serious action with saggy tits

Beaches Day 4 today for you. Shall we just try and ignore that it's Friday have you had many viewings yet? Has that snow disappeared yet? I do hope so - keep going Babe you're doing really well x

Love to all - have a Happy Friday everyone

Spanna give old saggy tits a serious pasting, knock her right into next week please, then my weekend will be a lot easier! . No viewings, nothing but I am keeping a positive mental attitude that the right buyer is on his way. So, Friday night...always more tempting but I am picturing a Saturday morning waking up without bog breath and regret. It WILL be worth it

Hi to all brave babes

I'm with you beaches booked dd2 into crèche so 10.30 yoga tomorrow so saggy tits can go sag somewhere else. ma I'm so sorry to hear about your job, I know how much you enjoyed it and also have your lovely boss. I am willing you a miracle babe xxx

Hello all. Very long time lurker here who has drawn enough strength from all you inspirational people to be off the booze for 4 months. May I trouble you with a question? Have any of you managed to moderate your drinking after a period of not drinking at all? My background is that I've been a moderately disfunctional drinker for many years - I'm 45. Drinking most nights, up to 40 units a week in a bad week. Never any blackouts or anything but occasional benders with horrible hangovers. Stopping completely has been great but I would really like to give moderation a try. Simple question is am I completely fooling myself? Over on the dry thread I think those good people would say that I am but my sense is that some of you here have managed it. Any thoughts gratefully received.

Thanks spanna and baby
Am beyond gutted. Best job ever, great team, great boss.
Can't think straight at the moment. Will prob be paid off end of May/June. Have offered to work 3 days a week in May( can't afford to but 3 days is better than no days huh?). Lovely boss working unpaid at the mo in a last ditch effort.
Will be off thread for a while. Drinking a lot and no help to anyone right now.

ma don't feel you have to stay away, it's a shit time for you and we like to see you here whatever.

prime wow, four months is fantastic, well done! I am not really sure about the moderating thing to be honest. I have not drunk for a month (a couple of times) and then started again with intentions of moderation. For me, this quickly slips back to more glasses and more often than intended. I still seem to have the belief that one glass is pointless and having none for me is easier than stopping after one. It's the mental bargaining and time spent considering how, when, how much that comes with moderating. Having said that, there are some babes who seem to manage occasional or moderated drinking pretty well. Hopefully you will get some more responses about it.

Day 4 done. Saggy tits out in the cold tonight.

Thanks beaches I'm grateful for the response. I do wonder whether I'm kidding myself. I think it maybe because I set myself a goal of giving up for 6 months and feel so astonished that I've got this far that I am lulled into a false sense of security. I know what you mean about the constant battle involved in a moderation. Anyway the main thing about finally posting is to say a huge thanks to all of you for sharing your daily stories and struggles - I feel in a very stalker-ish way that I know you all and your families. I haven't posted before as I've had a couple of very bad experiences on the Relationships board which can sometimes be a very judgmental place and so I've rather kept myself to myself on here but of course there is never anything other than support here. Anyway, enough about me, hope everyone has a lovely Saturday. I'm just off to trampoline (not me, I hasten to add, taking the kids!) and positively revelling in the fact that I don't have a hangover.

Hi prime you are very very welcome here and please participate here because I assure you no one here will hurt or offend you!! I think most of us would love to believe in moderating but the jury is still out on that one. Welcome aboard and go on have a jump xxx

Morning all
Need to get back in the bus slings herself in sidecar ...sending strength to all brave babes x

Things are moving in here (slowly) but its all in the right direction just this god damn whine witch has me by both ankles since I been in here

Hope you are all winning the battle or on your way to fighting the stupid silly witch x

Waving to mouse venus beaches ma isindie spanna why soc baby x