The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home.

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat :)

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? :)

Silverring 11 Days is awesome. Well done Babe. Are you drinking plenty of water? the headaches could be the toxins still leaving your body Keep it up babe If you're going to drink next weekend, you plan to drink something that you're not fond of is a good one. the other I've read on here is to start with a soft drink, a mocktail or something equally yummy and then decide if you still want a drink. It's worked for me on a few occasions

I've been reading your friend's thread Mouse, my heart goes out to her and her family. So much needless pain at what should be such a happy time in their lives . And for you, seeing your best friend suffer and feeling helpless in grief. Take care of yourself too x

silverring drink as much water as you can for the headaches. Do you really think you will be able to stick to just the one drink? If so, try to put it off as long as possible. Make it a game for yourself, a bit of a challenge. Stick to soft drinks, take lovely soft drinks with you if you think the choice will be a bit limited.

Ah spanna x posts there, good advice babe

Nuff how you doing?

I'm ok thanks spanna. On school holidays and being a bit lazy. I've done quite a lot of sorting out of drawers, cupboards and general junk clearing but doing it a bit sporadically.

Where does it all come from? I have a big clear out every spring and summer but there still seems to be so much in the way of 'nick nacks' or 'gadgets' that we don't need. Must be all those Christmas and birthdays.

Mind you, I'm a bit of a minimalist. I like my surfaces clear so that I can clean them easily. Otherwise I can't be arsed if it involves too much moving around of clutter.

How's about you?

Nuff de-cluttering is always good for the soul Glad you're surviving the holidays I had a good clear out before our stuff went into storage (as we're staying in a temporary flat) whilst in the middle of buying new flat. I'm really stressed with it all. The flat we're in is really damp and I kid you not everything smells fusty, really rank. Clothes, bedding etc. Damp basement flat without a lot of light is not good for my positive frame of mind. I can't seem to get back on the bus and I'm afraid AF days just aren't happening

How long before you can move into your new place spanna?

Nuff I'm hoping to be in before the end of the month otherwise I'll have to pay for another months storage (£360) which I just haven't got, urgh. We'll get there in the end. I need to rank up the pressure on my solicitor tomorrow. I've just sent an email to my mum to ask her for some money (she's currently in Australia) better than having to ask her face to face (and getting a lecture about finances) Thanks for asking Babe x

Thanks for the tips. The family function is over the whole weekend away, some in a home (where I will bring soft drinks) and some in a restaurant (the actual event).

I am in two minds really. One part of me is scared of being at a social function with nothing to drink, not used to that at all, I may be very dull and also not feel like partying! The other part tells me that I don't actually feel like a drink at all at the moment and maybe I'll feel that then then too (last night I accidentally picked up DH's wine glass, it looked very similar to my diluted beetroot juice glass, and when I smelled the wine I felt a bit sick!).

Drinking water ++++, also green tea and peppermint tea. Treated myself to those "tea pigs", they are lovely! I've not taken any pills for the headache either (normally deal with a headache with loads of analgesics and wine), as trying to really detox totally....getting obsessive about it is helping me stick to it!

Checking in
AF today and managed to get out for a wee jog. Week 2 of the race for life training programme.
God, that's going to be hard work getting to 5k for June. Need more AF days to shift some of the weight.

Hi babes

Quick check in before sleep. Back drinking again after being fairly good - the stress at work this week was horrendous, and although I am off for a bit now, I was actually not sleeping at all and drinking to switch off. Not happy with myself at all Going on holiday next week and have loads to do but have wasted today.

Well done to Ma and Silver. Impressed by the jogging Ma. Worked 60 hours last week and haven't been able to exercise and I think that is making me depressed. Going to look a right fatso on holiday!

Mouse - I am so, so very sorry about your friend's little girl. I really do not know what to say. I hope she has plenty of support, though nothing can make it better can it? Poor little girl. I hope you are looking after yourself too Mouse, I'm so sorry xxx

Sorry not to nc everyone, will pop back soon xxx

Hi hope don't be too hard on yourself, you have so much on your plate. Glad to hear about your upcoming holiday, you deserve a break from all the crap at work.

Good for you Ma, I tried the c25k once or twice but never managed more than 19 minutes of running. Just not made for it (I decided). Good luck with your training.

Spanna well, the house is now on the market. Valuation was reasonable, sadly not the millions we had hoped for but fair. We are hoping to move towards Dh's job which is about an hour and a half away. So now I have to keep the house tidy and hide all ironing! Sorry that you are stuck in a damp flat, that is horrible and no doubt pretty depressing. I hope the light at the end of the tunnel come super quickly and definitely before another months storage costs.

Im hope things are going ok for you honey

Actually I hope all of you are doing ok! I love being on the bus and seeing everyone's posts. Have a good week brave babes

Quiet on here at the moment... Where are you all? (has quick root around under the cushions for hidden opal fruits stash)

Sorry, not around much at the moment. My Dad died, and I'm struggling.

Venus I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad

Venus, so sorry about your dad. Sending hugs and thinking of you. Hope you are being supported in RL xxx

Oh Venus I am really sorry that you have lost your Dad.

venus

Oh my gorgeous, darling lady. I'm so sorry to hear your news, I knew that it was going to happen, as did you but it's still a massive shock. Horrid and totally awful.

Sweetheart, you have given so much over the years on here, so much of YOU, so much of your time and love and total care. You are utterly amazing. I can feel your pain.

Maybe you should come and join us over there, let out your sadness over on the bereavement thread.

I'm so very, very, very, sorry. Even though you know it's on the way, the thought that it's happened is soul destroying. I feel for you. you know where I am venus, I will always be here venus

Loss of life, loss of love is hard and tough on your life.

My friends' daughter died of Septic shock. Blood poisoning. It's horrific. I sobbed for ages. The poor little girl must smell amazing.

venus take good you, sending all my to you sweetheart xxx

Hope wishing you a lovely holiday

Beaches oh yes 'the keeping the house tidy' syndrome I hope you get the house sold soon (sorry it's not the millions that you wanted) Have you started looking at other homes yet, or are you going to wait until you've got an offer? A change is as good as a rest and less of a commute for DH, an hour and a half is a long old round trip

I'm how you doing honey? go on give us an update

Day 2 today and should complete on new flat on Thursday - yipeeeee but I'm not holding my breath

Venus so sorry about your dad. There is a lot of sadness on this bus at the moment; bereavement, both expected and sudden, and being kept apart from loved ones. Nothing we can do about it except listen to each other, share our experiences and our hope. Maybe some more poetry if anyone feels so inclined?

Am thinking of all babes going through difficult times right now. We are here if anyone wants to let it all out. I had a business idea for a sound-proof box where people could pay (a nominal fee) to go and scream and shout and bawl. We so rarely get the opportunity to let it all out, to send the pain off into the airwaves, we are restrained by the constraints of society to keep that 'stiff upper lip', to carry on grieving quietly and with dignity. I'm not sure that works for everyone.

Anyway, just musing

venus I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad.

venus - for some reason my crappy netbook missed out every other word to you in my post, I'm so very sorry I hope you know what I meant when I posted to you.

Take good care of you sweetheart xxx

IndieI like that a lot. Thank you
Venus my friend, my thoughts are with you. So sorry for you loss.
mouse I wondered why your post said " that little girl must smell amazing".... Has your netbook gone nuts?
Managed 6 minutes jog tonight. Its going to be a long road.....