WWYD open condom wrapper

[EverySoddingNameIsTaken]

Name changed for this.

Bought DP a new wallet for Xmas. His old
One has been on the fireplace since then. I was looking in it today for a receipt for a printer we bought which is now faulty. Inbetween hundreds of receipts I come across an open condom wrapper, no condom to be found.
DP has been unfaithful before. When we were younger. I forgave him and recently, I believe(d) he had grown up and realised the value of his family.

I obviously want to confront him but DP is very good at excuses, turning around or considering this wallet hasn't been used for four months I'm
Wondering if he'll just opt for 'haven't used that wallet in ages, I sincerely have no idea, god knows, but I swear to you I haven't done anything."

I can see this playing out. I can see me being made to be overreacting. Our relationship isn't great at the moment, I am pregnant and very tired our sex life has somewhat suffered due to this, he has made passing comments on lack
Of affection etc recently and I am very touchy if I am honest.

I am concerned for what answer I will get, I want the truth but would I get that? And If he opts out of telling the truth then what do I do? End my family? Go it all alone with no facts !?

FFS why did the fucking printer break

[Cabrinha]

I've got condoms in my car. It's a standing joke I never clear my car out. They're from dating last summer. My boyfriend has had a vasectomy. I spied them in the car last week and said "honey, I'm way too tight to just chuck these - but look, there's a packet of 3 in the car - thought I'd better mention it in case you spied them!" He laughed.
Because that's the thing... If you have condoms in your car, and a partner AND you have a history of cheating on her, wouldn't you tell her they were there?

Thing is OP, you stayed with him last time. What incentive has he got to NOT cheat on you?

[Cabrinha]

And no disrespect to OneMoreChap, no way would I be blaming pregnancy for feeling suspicious.

I'd be quite forthright that suspicion is a direct consequence of him cheating before.

[Linguini]

What would I do?
Keep the used wrapper, throw it in his face and then throw him out!

Even finding an UNopened condom in your DP's wallet (when u don't use them together) is grounds for seperation, let alone evidence that he has used a condom, and recently.

Sorry. What a S*head

[OneMoreChap]

No disrespect taken - I think the OP's partner is hooky.

I just thought it might be an "easier" way of seeing the phone straight away.
I did anything I could to make XW's pregnancies easier.

[Not that it helped, mind.]

[Cabrinha]

Yeah - I see your point. This wanker doesn't strike me as the type to make his wife's pregnancy easier though!
Making her feel guilty for being tired, and cheating on her. Arsehole.

[kentishgirl]

This is so hard - not an easy interpretation either way. Everything just raises more questions.

OH has history of cheating.
You find an empty condom wrapper in wallet. Why is it there?

a) cheating again?
b) but it is weird to put a wrapper back in wallet - unless he cheated somewhere he couldn't leave it,
c)or someone was messing about with his wallet,
d)or he hid it there from embarrassment from having a 'posh wank' (thread on this on MN) when they use a condom, flushed the condom, hid the wrapper.

You've just got to ask him about it and see if you can judge by his reaction as well as what he says.

[EverySoddingNameIsTaken]

I will ask him tonight when DS is In bed

[pilates]

I would be trying to get in to the "other phone" while he does not have suspicions that you are on to him. If you ask him he will just spin you a yarn. You need to get more evidence. It's not looking good tbh.

[crispyporkbelly]

Open condom wrapper hidden in wallet = he had sex with someone.

Sorry op. I'd kick him out.

[mammadiggingdeep]

Sorry op...

It doesn't look good. The wrapper back in the wallet would prob mean it had been used somewhere he couldn't discard it.

You most likely won't get the truth but you need to trust your own instincts once you've talked with him.

:( rubbish situation.

Don't think long term. Have the talk. Think. React to each step as you go...don't panic about ending up on your own etc, just take a step at a time. First step is to talk to him.

Good luck

[KathrynJaneway]

Could you have a look in his wallet that he's now using to see whats in it? Then maybe have a look at the other phone?

[WitchWay]

Did you notice any receipts that you couldn't place - meals out for example?

I don't think this is going to end well - sorry

[morethanpotatoprints]

Hello OP

I too would be doubting the story of the mates messing around with condoms, even though I know this isn't a concern right now. certainly worth looking at again though.
Check any pockets for unexplained receipts, meals out etc.
I would do more snooping before confronting him and try nd get something he can't weedle out of if possible.
I'm sorry this is happening OP, it doesn't sound like it will end well.
What is wrong with men today? Why can't they keep it in their pants?

[StealthPolarBear]

most men can I think

[fromparistoberlin73]

he is either (a) fucking someone else or (b) smuggling drugs, seriously have seen people do this to take weed/coke when they fly. wrap it in a jonny and out up anus

so sorry OP

[formerbabe]

When I read this, the first scenario that came into my mind was that the condom wrapper might have been placed in wallet by another woman who wanted you to find it...that's what I would think if I was in the ops situation but who knows, it may all be an innocent mistake.

[bluestar2]

I'm sorry op, my first thought was he had sex somewhere he couldn't dispose of wrapper in bin, either your house or theirs .

I would def be checking the phone first. Do you have access to his email etc ?

[EverySoddingNameIsTaken]

I have access to email etc. I really don't think this is how he'd go about it, I found out this way before plus he never uses our laptops. He would be more clever this time if he was to do it, i.e second phone out of the house.

[FreeLikeABird]

I'm sorry your going through this op, before confronting him I would try to get your hands on this other phone, which is left at work, then confront him about the condom wrapper.

[Twinklestein]

Remember OP you don't have to be proof to have a valid point. However much he tries to wriggle and turn it round on you etc. You do not have to scrabble around looking for evidence...

[Caitlyn2014]

I think you know the truth of this, and I feel for you. xxx

[Mothergothel99]

Have you checked the expiry date on the pack? Condoms don't have that long a shelf life. For instance the condoms from before your 4 year old would have expired now.

Honestly I would be looking at the phone, tonight. Find an excuse pop out and check it.

I would prepare for the worst. Sorry.

[EverySoddingNameIsTaken]

There is no expiry date

I'm going to try and get to the office tonight, if i can

[TheOrchardKeeper]

Sorry to read this Every

Whatever he says, the fact he had condom(s) around at all isn't right.

I'd love to hear what he has to say about it. How do you explain away something so dodgy??

And I hope you can get to the office

[BorisJohnsonsHair]

A long shot, but maybe he was clearing out the car, came across a receipt and stuffed it into his wallet and the condom wrapper was picked up at the same time?

Just thinking that putting an empty condom packet in your wallet is very odd. Surely you'd put it in your pocket and dispose of it at the first opportunity if you were up to no good?

Hope it all goes ok tonight OP.