Why did you get married?

[evangelinelily]

To the married people out there- anyone willing to share? What were your reasons for getting married as opposed to remaining as partners and cohabiting?

Do you and your husband/wife have shared goals for the future that you discussed prior to getting married? What are they?

Because after enduring an emotionally abusive childhood I wanted to feel secure.
That was before I realised that
a) my emotionally security comes from within
b) he had the emotional compass of a dead goat

I now live with my DP....simply because my life is good but even better with him in it.

folk- im so sorry hun if you need somoene to talk to feel free to pm me .

I loved him, thought we wanted to build a future together and had the same values. Sadly his reasons were a) mil insisted so that she would have more contact with our ds and b) he wanted me to bankroll him. The money ran out and so did he - and then I found out the truth.

I got married because I loved/love my husband, because it was different to everything that had ever gone before and because he did and still does bring out the best in me.
I also married because 'wife/husband' is very different to 'girlfriend/boyfriend' regardless of length of relationship (that's not a judgement on anyone else's situation)...for both of us it was also about standing up and making that commitment to each other in front of our family and friends.
We've been married 16 years, like everyone we've had ups and downs, but we've always been clear about the promises we made that day.

Interesting thread.

I got married because when we met I thought, I'm going to marry you. We got married quickly. Now divorced.

I've had a long and ultimately unsuccessful relationship since then. There is absolutely nothing I would like more than to be married again.