Is this a red flag? Or am I being too cautious? (online dating)

[MardyPants]

So I've been talking to a man who I met on POF, we've not met in real life yet. He seems alright but incredibly forward about talking about sex. Not sure if I'm just being prudish or if this is just normal nowadays / or just a typical man, always thinking with his dick. We've been talking a couple of weeks over the phone and by text.

Stuff he's said :

I'm really highly sexed, I work out a lot so have loads more testoterone than other blokes so if I'm with a partner I need loads of sex
I'm quite grumpy, but I'll be fine after if you just sort me out (mmm, because grumpy is soooooo hot)
I have a thing about feet. Will you send me a pic of your feet? Will you send me a pic of your feet? Will you send me a pic of your feet? Oh go on!
I like foot jobs, I bet you can imagine what they are
Bet you're thinking, can't wait to rip his clothes off and take advantage
(loads of questions about my feet, are they soft, are they pretty, are they smelly (!) and, will I send a photo)

And he read me a load of guff about tantric sex off some website, over the phone. And not sex related, but has mentioned marriage or marriage related stuff at least 4 times, followed by, am only joking.

Hmmmmm.

I'm surprised you need to ask, Mardy. Of course it's red flags with knobs on.

Red flag at full mast for me, yuck, I don't do feet.

Why are you even asking? It's clear what this man is like.

And no, men don't "think with their dicks". They think with their brains, like all people do.

is he a horny teen?

I read this and got goosebumps. Creepy . Just. No.

Yes to RED FLAGS!!!!

OP you can do better!!!

Seriously do you really need to ask us?! He sounds awful.

Run as fast as your (mercifully still unmolested) feet can carry you! Bleurgh!!

You really, really have to ASK,OP? Avoid avoid avoid!

This can't be genuine

Laughing my head off at Yak. Skanky perv

I hate feet too, to whoever said that, although it wasn't so much the foot thing that bothered me, as much as the fact that he had to bring it up like right at the beginning. And keep going on about it ever since.

Was supposed to meet him today and I have copped out

HellonHeels That's a really good point, no there has been no interest in me, what I want, sexwise or otherwise. Because it's not really footsex and it's not really marriage either (I found him mentioning marriage equally as offputting as the foot thing)

VILE FROM VILE LAND

good lord woman, how desperate are you??

Who cares about red flags when you appear to be wanting to hook yourself to the most revolting turd fuck on earth.

Get a grip, get some self esteem - I'd literally rather fuck the car than that.

Yep he just wants sex, and isn't even interested in pleasing you in that regard is he?

run. Very fast

I hope he doesn't have your real phone number ? Because that level of weirdness from a stranger suggests you may have trouble shaking him off ? I can bet that you will be called some variation of frigid in the next 24 hours.

sorry mardy

just seen you came to your senses...

I bet he is married! if you gotta talk about it (how good you are in bed) then chances are you are not very good at all!

My feet are average to completely unpedicured, anyway, he would've been disappointed.

No, he has my online dating payg mobile phone number.

Wouldn't really have called myself desperate as such, but haven't dated much since I came out of a fairly long relationship so kind of feel I'm out of my depth with the whole dating thing. I did feel a bit uncomfortable (hence obviously turning to the collective genius of MN), genuinely didn't realise it was so weird / such a grossfest.

turdfuck

OMG, POF is full of sleazy, sad and usually attached men.

And, to top it off, he has a foot fetish, the cheesier the better.

Seriously, I don't even know you but I guarantee you can do better than this.

It is a red flag the size of mexico with the words 'I DON'T EVEN SEE YOU AS HUMAN. I JUST WANT TO GET MY ROCKS OFF WITHOUT PAYING A PROSTITUTE' visible from space.

To be perfectly frank, if this isn't screaming out 'Vile pervert who will probably stalk you for years' then you might need to come off internet dating until your 'normality' filter has reset itself.

Nothing wrong with liking feet in a sexy way. It's a personal preference.

Nothing wrong with just wanting to meet up for sex as long as you are upfront about it.

Nothing there that suggests stalker either.

But he plainly has no interest in her at all. completely selfish. Sort me out. Not even a pretense that he is offering her anything.

This is what you can do for me. Sort it aht love.

It doesn't matter what MN thinks if you don't feel comfortable with someone don't put up with it.

when I've done online dating if they start twatting on about sex I either cut them off straight away or tell them to stop.

EW!

OMG this would have sent me running screaming for the hills! When I dabbled a bit at od the only ones I didn't immediately delete were those who didn't mention sex. Hence out of about 60 messages in a week (I kid you not!) I whittled out 58 straight away, chatted to one about his knee op and settled for another who made me laugh and talked rubbish about films and day to day stuff..

It depends what you're looking for of course but ime the ones who talk about sex are only looking for sex.