feel empty

[seasrblue7]

i have my children ,home, job and my health why the hell should i feel the way i do.
I am separated from children father which is ok we get along ok for sake of children.
i met another man which when i with him is great but never know when im going to see him again and its causing me to feel used.
i enjoy his company when together but never know when thats going to be he had couple of serious relationships.
im always there when he can fit me in just fed

Op. Ignore your friend. Who needs friends like her. Stop trying to engage with the ex. You want to move on and change things. Drop these people. Don't respond to their texts.

Ok

Feel like cr..I don't if it's all that's happened did have a cry today my aunt called to see me in middle of my cry feel bloody stupid want these feelings emotions to disappear yes the I'm a people pleaser obviously not doing me many favours how do I stop being a people pleaser

Recognising you want people to like you is half the battle. Having a few corners knocked off when people-pleasing causes you pain is useful as well. You're upset at the moment but you can benefit if you learn from your experiences and work out where you went wrong.

It ultimately comes down to being assertive and putting yourself first. In any given situation, make sure you're happy with it and not just going along with others for a quiet life. Have opinions, risk causing offence, be selfish, use phrases like 'that's not acceptable to me'. Take conscious effort initially and you might lose a few friends along the way but you'll feel more in control.

Well I can't believe what I've done I slept with him what kind of a person does that make me "weak" in my opinion stupid cause I know deep down he using me

It's a blip. You've been upset and he's offered some form of comfort in that he's found you attractive enough to fuck. You're parceling up your self worth and only seeing it in relation to to how attractive someone else -this man who treats you badly- finds you. It's understandable, because you've been so low.

I think you need some time away from him to work on yourself and capture this feeling now, because he'll be back and try to flatter it out of you, you need to keep that feeling and remember how bad you feel right now (not that you should necessarily feel bad about sleeping with him. I refer to 'blip' )