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Think it's time for a positive dh/dp thread ...

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wannaBe1974 · 17/08/2006 11:52

As there have been so many negative dh/dp posts on here, I think that we should have a positive dh/dp thread just to balance things out a bit and show that not all men are assholes. so ...

I think my dh is great and i wouldn't change him for the world. We've been together for 11 years, and he:

would do anything for me, will help with some housework even though he is out from 6 in the morning till 7 at night during the week. When ds was born he had three weeks paternity leave, he made up all the bottles, did all the hoovering/cooking/cleaning/shopping for first two weeks so that all I had to do was concentrate on ds, he will get up in the night if ds is ill to clear up sick/change sheets etc so I can deal with ds. He spends all his spare time with ds on weekends, he backed out of a house move two weeks before exchange two years ago because I had a last minute change of heart and didn't feel I could go through with it, there's more but this will do for starters. I know that these are the sorts of things that dh's should be doing anyway but it seems that so often they don't, so I just thought that it would be nice for the dh's to get a bit of positive publicity for once. And yes you may all throw up now, lol.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2006 11:55

It's a lovely sentiment, but perhaps a little insensitive?

Your DP sounds lovely though

Callisto · 17/08/2006 11:55

My dp is great too. He has been so patient and forgiving for the first year of dd's life when I was not coping terribly well. He works his a* off for us so that I can stay at home with dd. He is always ready to muck in with housework, cooking, looking after daughter etc.

Good thread Wannabe.

Enid · 17/08/2006 11:57

I have a fab dh too

but surely its only interesting to people if you post about their general crapness?

I only tell people about dh whenever he has been particuarly dimmoid and keep all the good stuff to myself

MatNanPlus · 17/08/2006 11:58

So good to hear wannaBe.

My DH is renovating our first home while i'm aeway working, he checks all decisions with me in regard to plan changes and purchases before he gets then, has allowed more of my choices than his to be done.

Has repainted the walls as i thought the colour was a bit to dark.

He cooks more than me due to him being home first, will change the bed and do laundry.

Records programmes for me while i'm away that he believes will be of interest.

Will watch HOTT and some medical programmes if he has to tho really got into HOTT last series.

Sends me flowers for no other reason than he loves and misses me while i'm away.

Been together for 4yrs and married for almost a yr.

MatNanPlus · 17/08/2006 12:01

Can see your point VVV but do you think YG would mind?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2006 12:03

I wasnt referring to YG actually. Hadnt even thought about that. But, I dont know how she'd feel about it right now.

Just think if there are so many threads about people who's partners are being sods then we should point our efforts and posts towards supporting them instead iykwim.

Chloe55 · 17/08/2006 12:07

It's nice to hear a bit of positivity though VVQV, don't you think? No harm in posting your feelings on here and offering support on the other threads. Not that I can contribute to this one as dh is doing my head in right now

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wannaBe1974 · 17/08/2006 12:17

it was by no means meant to be insensitive to anyone, and therefore if I've offended anyone then I apologise. I just think that with so many situations, we are quick to see and point out the bad in people, and so often the good things slip by the way side and are never seen or recognized. The world is so full of negative horrible things that I think sometimes it does good to look to the positive things as well.

Apart from that, I would always offer support on the threads where people are having a hard time at the hands of their h/p, and I thank my lucky stars that I have what I consider to be the best, because there but for the grace of god go any of us ...

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Pamina3 · 17/08/2006 12:20

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Bozza · 17/08/2006 12:26

Hmm can't imagine why you needed to go straight to bed?

mumfor1standfinaltime · 17/08/2006 12:28

Dh is fab and I want to tell the world! He gets in from work and takes over straight away by taking ds to the park or playing outside. I will then have a bath ir whatever.
He will then give ds a bath and read him a story and put him to bed.
He will also do anything for me including buying me a car and paying the insurance! (yes we are working class lol)

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2006 12:34

I'm not wanting to piss on anyone's parade! Ignore me, I'm being a sensitive old sausage.

Oh, and my DP is fab. In every respect, just in case you thought I might just be bitter and twisted

wheresmyfroggy · 17/08/2006 12:36

I am a dh , think I am a pretty good one.
Pamina- still no sign, lockets on pineapple now and sat permanantly on that ball.

berrycherry · 17/08/2006 12:46

My DH is fab, love him to bits even after 14 years, when I hear my friends moaning about their's, I am always very grateful! some women do have to put up with complete a**s!

oliveoil · 17/08/2006 12:50

My dh is great BUT I have to say, I think it normal that he helps with the girls and does baths etc. He is their father! And as for cleaning around the house, he lives here, of course he cleans!

I don't see these as good points, but what I would expect.

Does that make sense?

berrycherry · 17/08/2006 12:51

with you oliveoil, sometimes they do need a bit of a gentle prod!!

Pamina3 · 17/08/2006 12:56

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wheresmyfroggy · 17/08/2006 13:00

Luckily work have tried not to book me on anything so I am at home , off to one oclock club with the girls in a mo. Lockets refuses to rest though as she thinks the more active she is the better.

Pamina3 · 17/08/2006 13:01

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Joolstoo · 17/08/2006 13:05

he's not a bad old stick

MrsBadger · 17/08/2006 13:06

DH cooks dinner every single night, mostly from scratch. Even when he works longer hours than me.

[makes note to buy flowers for him on way home]

fairyjay · 17/08/2006 13:07

I have felt rotten for a couple of days and told my dh that I think I have a brain tumour (sick joke, I know). He asked me if the insurances were up to date .
I suppose after 21 years of married bliss, he can just about get away with that one!

Thomcat · 17/08/2006 13:09

oliveoil just typed almost exactly what I was about to say.

So what if they are happy to help with a bit of cleaning, so they bloody should!

Big up your husbands all you like, good on you, but have to agree with Olive Oil.

I love my DP becasue when he reads to Lottie he makes all the voices and I stand outside listening and really loving him for it

I love my DP becasue while he was off work looking after DD2 (8 months) he taught her to do a mad laugh like Beavis & Butthead.

I love my DP cos he had a huge crowd round him on Saturday night and he was doing magic for them and really making everyone laugh.

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