Next door's gardener has propositioned me.

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I say hello when I see him and that's it.

Today he was working down the road at another house and flagged me down. Handed me a letter (unaddressed) which he said not to open then (was in car en route to work) and it said he thinks about me all the time & would I like to go for coffee or maybe a walk in the woods!

I'm happily married. I have to tell DH don't I!

Let him down gently after he's landscaped for you.

Seriously though, be gentle.

He is flattering her. She is the object of flattery. She is therefore flattered. She doesn't have to be pleased about it, of course...

A walk in the woods sound like an invitation to some dogging. tbh.

Your DH sounds great

I am a bit at being asked out though - nowt like that ever happens me

I like your DH.

He might want to approach the gardener and tell him that you thank his offer but will have to decline.

DH has just got the washing in and said ' don't peg your knickers out on Fridays from now on! (That is when gardener is next door.)

(DH knows I'm freaked about my u/wear ever since some got nicked off the line years ago!)

I agree it is sweet of him. And he wasn't to know you're married.

Because he'd said 'please don't be offended when you read this', when I opened the letter his business card fell out and I thought he was going to be asking to do our garden as we have a wild flower garden which can look messy at times!

He put his number in the letter so I will text and tell him I'm married.

I'm embarrassed tbh

Glad your DH saw the amusing side

Two answers :

1. Thanks, but no thanks, I'm married.

2. Agree to meet him by the Willow tree next to the lake in the woods at 6pm. Then get DH to meet him, whereupon DH will say to randy gardener "but I thought your unaddressed note you gave to my wife was for me?"

Precious, I wouldn't either!

He's a similar age to me I think Precious.

I agree Nomama I'd just thank him & explain I was married. He stuck his neck out & asked you out. No harm done! And I'd definitely be flattered!

There's this to be said for gardeners: they can always find the clematis, no matter how overgrown the bush.

/deadpan.

Maybe it was all that talk about your 'wild flower garden' that did it

Great minds, kisses

He's a gardener... maybe he likes woods! :o

I think if you are clear with him that it's a thanks but no thanks, it's fine.

What if you had been single and had fancied him? It would have been a nice thing to do, and you could always have chosen the coffee if the woods sounded scary.

Kisses, this is an in joke at work because a colleague's mother always calls it a clitoris bush

I've just text him, explained I'm married and declined; he's replied he wasn't sure whether I was married so decided to write to me.

The irony is that DH works in nature conservation and is always suggesting we go for a walk in the woods

I'm fed up of going to the bloody woods!

So, if he was 'your type' would you react differently?

No Psycho because I'm married. But I could maybe understand if I'd been a bit smilier with him if he was 'my type' and he'd thought I was giving some signals.

I live by the woods...

If it's unaddressed maybe he keeps a stack of them in his wheelbarrow to hand out to all of his clients' neighbours

Kind of like spamming but in RL

Not to imply that you are not all that OP!

OP I think you should ask for this thread to be moved to the Gardening topic, to cope with the avalanche of smutty gardening metaphors incoming about now.

ALSO I'm a bit annoyed because in 15 years as a professional gardener I have never had a hot client