New relationship - he's clingy and I cant breathe!!

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Is this a red flag maybe? and I need to get it off my chest !

We have been together about 6 weeks, I have not long come out of a mentally abusive relationship of 4 yrs and this has just kind of happened I have known him a little for about a year.

He is lovely,kind and what I would always be looking for EXCEPT!

I am getting bombarded with texts , even before 830 in the morning I usually have 3-4 from him, if I dont get chance to reply within 10mins I get another, along the lines of "u okay?" then 10mins later "hope yr phone hasnt broken" 10mins later " are u awake?"

I feel like I cant breathe!

He wants to see me everyday and I have to say no and come up with a good enough excuse that is plausable enough not to see him.

He said he wants me to move in - which is so wrong and soon but he cannot see it!

I dont want to rush anything and I have explained this!

I feel wary of getting close so soon, is this normal behavoiur of a new relationship and I'm pushing a good thing away ?

My ex showed no affection at all ( unless he wanted something!)

He sounds like a nightmare

You just know one day it will all stop and turn to disdain when he's bored of you

When you dump this man be sure to block all contact and do not respond to any messages or phone calls. It may prove difficult to get rid of him but the sooner you can end it the better.

Hopefully he won't turn nasty but be prepared to inform the police about harassment if necessary.

Dahllen said it all on the first page:

"But the problem here is not his self-proclaimed feelings; it is his refusal to accept any feedback from you. It's as though what you feel is incidental. IT's all about him and what he wants and he seems to feel that his role is to wear you down until you comply. He is not listening to you at all, let alone respecting what you have to say. That's a huge red flag and most certainly is indicative of an abusive personality."

It doesn't matter if he never turns abusive. It doesn't matter if everything he says about his ex is the literal truth.

This is a man who has no intention of ever listening to you.

That's all you need to know.

run for the mother feckin hills woman. He sounds like he has a screw loose. or is 13 years old.

Is he dumped yet?

Is he dumped yet?

Agree you should run for the hills. I feel smothered just reading the OP

Red flag. Run for the hills!

I went on one date with a chap that turned out like this and couldn't cope with this level of texting and questioning

You must be climbing the walls after six weeks!

ANd remember that it's perfectly all right to dump a man for any reason you like. He doesn't have a right to your time, or your attention, or for the relationship to continue just because that's what he wants.
ONce you have informed him that he's dumped, ignore any and all attempts to make contact. If he phones from a different number so that you do take the call, hang up when you recognise his voice. Don't reply to any texts or emails and block him on Facebook etc. If he turns up at your house, don't anwer the door and call the police if he starts howling or banging about. If he keeps pestering, let the police know.
You owe him nothing.

Omg he sounds like a complete nutter - not in anyway shape or form normal

Please don't see him again, I am 4 months into a new relationship, we see each other maybe twice a week, text maybe twice a day - this at the moment is enough for me. Anymore than that I wouldn't like it as I don't want to feel under pressure.

Seriously please don't see this guy again.

Run like the wind

I actually felt scared reading your post, let alone suffocated. He's in stalker territory.

When you dump him and he cries and asks "why?" make sure you don't give him a response that he can argue against or he'll wheedle his way back in. Just say "because I don't want to be with you" otherwise he will promise to change and to do this and do that and he will continue to be a suffocating prick. Then block him every which you can. Please tell me he does not have a key to your home. If so, change the lock as soon as.

It looks like you were friends before you started dating. He cannot stay as a friend after this.