husband looking for sex online

[nancynancynoonoo]

Nc for this.

Dh had viruses on his laptop which I was helping him fix. I have checked his internet browsing history before and know he occasionally goes on porn sites. I usually check it after his laptop gets infected with viruses. This time i see he has been googling "I want to have sex in (our local town)" and checking cheater/affair websites, looking at local profiles on casual sex sites, and googling for sex workers contact details. We have been married five years and have 2 dc. We rarely have sex and haven't had penetrative sex in months. I work full time in a job I love, and dh stays at home with dc who are small.

I havent confronted him and I dont want to. I love him.

Please please please don't sit on this nancy. If you found out and were OK with it and everything else on the marital front was hunky dory I could understand it, but it isn't is it?

You can't know what the conseqence of tackling him would be. he might throw a fit, blame you and walk out. He might shrug and say 'deal with it' and not change. He might be hugely ashamed and stop for a while and then start again. But he might stop, be hugely ashamed and realise that he wants to fix the marriage along with you. Any of these outcomes are possible...and others. But until you know you can't make any decisions either.

Thats the beauty about the internet.... You can browse!!!! Doesn't mean F*ck all except you seriously need to have a chat regarding your sex life, lack of.

Good luck.

I cant be bothered right now. I am exhausted from work and two small dc. If he wants to talk he is more than welcome to bring it up. He obviously doesnt. So I am thinking - why should I put myself on the line and feel like shit and get my confidence wrecked and get humiliated even more than i am now? I Would be happy to have sex but he doesn't get aroused, that's a pretty hard knock to take. Tried talking about it but he must have just lied. I don't know, maybe he was looking for hook ups so he could see if it was him or me that was the issue.he is grumpy and I dont know how I feel anymore. Anyway, thanks for all the replies. I really appreciate you taking the time to offer your advice and it has all been helpful. I know it will come to a head at some point but I cant confront it now.

Have a hug (and bugger MN conventions...) If you do feel you need to talk about it more, we are here. Yes, as you say, it won't go away, but you need to take this at your own pace. Good luck. I hope you find a resolution that works for you sooner rather than later.