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Dating a guy 7 years younger

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StillGettingItWrong · 10/03/2014 19:41

I'm 34, he's 27. I reluctantly agreed to a date not expecting there to be a spark. He's a dad, which may or may not make him more mature, but I was surprised by just how much I liked him. We've seen each other a few times though it's still early days. Just wanted to hear from anyone with experience of dating a younger guy really. For no other reason than I'm a nosey cow What are the pros and cons of dating a younger guy?

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MadBusLady · 10/03/2014 19:44

Lurking for cheering up purposes. For some reason I seem to be hearing about lots of men in their 40s dating girls in their 20s at the moment. Tis depressing.

dietstartsmonday · 10/03/2014 19:47

exact same ages as me and DP. we are 3 years in and buying a house and engaged.
the age worried me at first but don't notice it. enjoy

Fairylea · 10/03/2014 19:49

I don't think that age gap is anything really- as long as you both want the same things.

I married my toyboy!- I say that tongue in cheek. I am 34 and he is 26 and we have been married 2 years now and together for 5. I was divorced with one dc when we met. We now also have a toddler son together. It's worked for us.

However before him I did have a 6 month relationship with a man who was 22 and he was a nightmare. All pubs and clubs and festivals and way too much energy and going out for me. That died a death. But I think we were just a mismatch rather than an age problem. Dh is a total home body like me.

Shoopshoop2 · 10/03/2014 19:53

That age gap is nothing. I got with DH of 31 years when he was 21 and I was 27

Dirtybadger · 10/03/2014 20:01

34 and 27 is nothing.

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StillGettingItWrong · 10/03/2014 20:06

Maybe because it's the first time I've dated someone more than a couple of years younger, the age gap seems significant. I don't really think about it when we're together though which is the main thing I suppose. How did the families of your younger DP's react?

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dietstartsmonday · 10/03/2014 20:12

they were fine, some people were shocked as i had three kids but all fine now. no one we have met since knows we are so far apart unless we say. helps i look quite young. i like it when i get asked for ID in the pub and he doesn't

myalias · 10/03/2014 20:15

I have a 6 year age gap with my dh and we have been together for 22 years.

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StillGettingItWrong · 10/03/2014 20:18

I had botox on my crows feet before I met him. So glad I did now

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dietstartsmonday · 10/03/2014 20:26

i,m holding the botox back for now but won't hesitate when needed!

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StillGettingItWrong · 10/03/2014 20:30

Oh it's fab! Best 80 quid I ever spent... especially when he uttered the words "you don't look 34"

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dietstartsmonday · 10/03/2014 20:50

hmm may have to treat myself soon then. pretty sure i am going to wake up looking 50 anyday now as revenge for looking young till now

Ludways · 10/03/2014 20:54

Only 4 years between us here but he looks about 10-12 years younger, lucky git!! Been together over 15 years.

RealUnreality · 10/03/2014 20:57

My bf is 16 years younger than me, together nearly 2 years. He's the most mature lovely guy I've ever dated, and it's working out just fine

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