DH, prostitution and pregnancy

[messandnonsense]

So last night I found out my DH visited a prostitute last Friday lunchtime. Apparently he saw an advert, got curious, rang, visited, paid the girl £100 to do 'whatever he wanted' but couldn't actually go through with it.
I'm 15 weeks pregnant with DC3. We have had our ups and downs and could do with working a few things out but actually our sex life has always been v good (if a little sporadic and inconsistent due to having small children).
I confronted him, he says he's told me the truth, he didn't go through with it. I'd like to think I believe him but to be honest don't know what to think.
I've told him he needs to get an STI check today. We actually had sex the night before so now I'm worried for my baby too.
Christ, what a mess!
Don't know who to speak to or what to do and sat here blubbing.

Thanks Scatterbrain - still feeling stunned and with hundreds of thoughts and emotions whirling about. I feel totally exhausted and keep bursting into tears in random places. I feel like I'm going insane.

I saw my GP this morning who has reassured me about our baby but suggested I get checked out and has given me the clinic details. I've also got the number for a counsellor so will call this afternoon to book in.

I just wish this would all go away. Sometimes I convince myself this will all work out and then in the next thought I realise how ridiculous playing happy families will be.

Glad you have already seen the GP and that you will be contacting a counsellor. Focusing on yourself and your needs is key to getting through this awful time so be kind to yourself.

I want to believe him so badly.
^ this is what he is counting on

Sorry you are going through this mess

Sorry OP, didn't mean to sound harsh, just angry at your plight, and no you can't play happy families with this hanging over you, I hope you have good support in RL and someone to lean on and help you through this.

messandnonsense

I often try (especially after my latest relationship disaster) (and someone else advised me this once too - to try and see it another way.

what if a friend told you of her predicament which is like yours?

9 times out of 10 you'd end it (LTB) and be cross with her if she didn't end it.

Maybe that's what you need to step outside the square to see another view.

is it possible (highly unlikely being pregnant?) to stay with someone for a few days or ask him to leave for a few days, you ask someone to stay etc? I agree you need good support in RL and someone to lean on. Maybe a therapist would be good.

Mess I have sent you a private message xx

Mess .. you sound so like I did 3 months ago. I too just wanted it to all go away , it all would hit me again every morning when I woke up and the tears were hard to control some days.
Your are in shock and it will take time to sink in.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, if you feel it would help please PM me.

There is NO way he didn't go through with it. He wouldn't have even made the call if he didn't have any intention to sleep with her...does he think you were born yesterday? He's massively minimising:(