Bromance getting out of hand?

[optimism4]

My dp friend treated him to a weekend away for his birthday. One night turned into 3 days when this friend booked it. It was supposed to be a night in newcastle with all the boys but when dp arrived at airport it was just the two of them and friend surprised him by letting him know at boarding that they were going abroad!

Dp is a bit annoyed as baby is on the way and if he HAD to go somewhere, he didn't want to be gone far or for long.

This friend of his is not very accepting of me and sort of pretends I don't exist- I'm never included but this, to me, is a piss take.

Would anyone else feel the same? My family think this friend needs to find a gf and stop treating my dp like one!

They're back tonight and I don't know how to play this...

[ThermoLobster]

Does your DP work shifts? V lucky he isn't due in work for four days, when he was only meant to be away for 2.

[LightastheBreeze]

Dp will have had to buy stuff to wear. I sat chatting to him while he packed.

OP said earlier, so she must have though it was one night. I must admit I re-read it and its a bit hard to tell, like whose birthday is it.

[Fairenuff]

Yes, OP said that she thought it was just one night.

It was supposed to be a night in newcastle with all the boys but when dp arrived at airport it was just the two of them and friend surprised him by letting him know at boarding that they were going abroad!

[Fairenuff]

Dp is a bit annoyed as baby is on the way and if he HAD to go somewhere, he didn't want to be gone far or for long.

See, this is the bit that doesn't make sense. He didn't want to go away at all but if he HAD to go somewhere, etc. So why on earth would he agree to three days abroad and then fail to get in contact with OP?

[JeanSeberg]

This story's got more holes in it than an Aero.

[hamptoncourt]

I don't think it is the OP who is lying though to be fair....I think she has been very naïve and I feel sorry for her.

[Fairenuff]

I agree hampton I don't think she's lying either but she sure doesn't want to hear the truth. Or at least consider the possibilities of the truth. Ah well, it's her life, she's the one that has to live with him...

[LineRunner]

The truth is harder than the pain inside.

[JeanSeberg]

Only sometimes...

[KatieScarlett2833]

Stop being funny on so many levels with the Erasure joke and making me laugh when I'm cross with you Jean

[Stockhausen]

It doesn't add up, my husband would have text me where he was, as I'd be curious & because it's the respectful thing to do.

[LineRunner]

He is arriving home tonight.

[Doha]

I think OP hasn't replied because she has started to see that her DP must be a bit implicated in all this supposed overnight stay.
He was not man enough to say no thanks--because he wanted to go

[MrsCosmopilite]

I'm not criticising the OP here, but I think her DP is very weak-willed when it comes to his BFF. The only analogy I can think of is when I used to work in the City. On Fridays, we'd go out for a drink. I'd happily have two, but after that would switch to soft drinks as I had a train journey to make and wanted to be clear-headed enough not to get lost/fall asleep.
One night, a 'friend' was insisting on more drinks. I said I didn't want one. Twice. Same 'friend' then came back from the bar with a large drink for me. I put it on the side, said 'no thanks' and went home. The 'friend' was not impressed, but did realise that I meant what I said and never pulled that stunt again.

Seems to me that the DP here will put the friend above the partner every time. Hopefully when he gets home, she'll put him right on how things need to be going forward.

[Lweji]

Ahem, the BFF is another friend, according to the OP, who said she thought he would be annoyed with this "improptu" 3 day away.

[MrsCosmopilite]

Thanks Lweji - I was typing with interruptions from a 3 year old. Hopefully the point I was trying to make wasn't lost :)

[Lweji]

Other people have called this friend bff too. But apparently he isn't even that, which makes it all the more strange.

[stooshe]

Is this thread a wind up? I don't get how a "husband" just agrees to go on a three day trip with one person form a supposed group that were meant to go on an overnight thing. Then the lack of curiosity from the pregnant Op doesn't seem quite human (especially combined with the fact that she set up this "enquiring" thread in the first place).
There is either some "tearing out on the side" with females going on, or the OP's husband and the non BFF are lovers who are depending on the lunacy of the set up being interpreted as "but if something was awry, they would have made a better job of pulling it off".
Sorry OP, you've been had. This isn't a case of "what if?". It's more like "it is what it is".

[Hoppinggreen]

You have no relationship with this friend. He clearly doesn't like you if any other woman and owes you nothing.
Your OH on the other hand ...............

Direct your anger correctly

[Stockhausen]

Vegas???

[haveyourselfashandy]

If your dp is so easily led,I would be worried about what he's being talked into on this holiday.Even if his friend isn't gay he obviously has a problem with you.
Problem solved if your dp misbehaves,his friend wouldn't hesitate in telling you.

[livingatheendofthewall]

So what's going on OP? Is he back with his tail between his legs? Where was he?

[ArtisanScotchEgg]

Has he shown up yet?

[ChickyEgg]

What seems odd to me, and correct me if I'm wrong, is that he still went despite the trip being completely different to what he was led to believe. No other people and not Newcastle! I'd have told the BFF to fuck off!!

[marcopront]

What is BFF? It's not on the acronym list.