Do you still love your first love?

[Crawling1]

My first love was very abusive but last night I had a dream about sleeping with him it was a pleasant dream. I'm just wondering if others still have feelings for past loves?

[Ludways]

Think of some of my exes very fondly, I'm friends with a few on fb. One I wouldn't piss on it he was on fire!

[KatieScarlett2833]

No, not at all, despite being miserable for ages after we split.

He had a heart attack a while back and while I was sad, I felt sorrier for his lovely wife as he has cheated on her pretty much constantly. She is way too good for him and is now stuck in nurse mode (we are in touch).

[shakinstevenslovechild]

I still love my first love, and I always will.

He and I went through something so awful together that we will always have a very special connection.

Sadly we were a really, really, rubbish couple, but we make excellent friends though.

[fluffyraggies]

I love the memories of the time in my life he shared and the age i was. 16/17 and free as a bird and yet bound so tight by my own insecurities. I remember endless warm summer nights in London with him. The pubs and clubs. It wasn't really love, of course, but it was the first time i felt anything like that for anyone. And i'll never forget it.

24 years later (and a failed 17 year marriage later) i have found my first real true love, and am married to a man i am utterly crazy about :)

[halfwildlingwoman]

Yes, but he's my best friend and surrogate brother now. We have a strong connection, but we would have been terrible long term, he is a difficult man to make happy. I would have had to manage him and play second fiddle to his career. DP is easy-going and suits me much better.

[Daisypops]

Yes. I will always love him. I think about him daily. The connection we had was amazing in every way. He still loves me too apparently :-(

[jesy]

Always will , it was his 30th today and it hurt not being th here

[WhateverTrevor83]

Ooh daisy it's never too late: life's too short x

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Yes I do. We're both getting on a bit, he's married with almost grown-up kids and, when we met recently, there was definitely a lot of residual affection and 'what might have beens'. It's a tricky one because I don't think we could ever be just friends.

[RestingActress]

No not at all. Lovely bloke and all that, remembered fondly, friends on fb but very different lives and no real connection.

[DrankSangriaInThePark]

Coming back to this slightly less flippantly......he wasn't my first love, but my second. And even my MN user name relates to him. Because once we did. Almost 30 yrs ago. A couple of years ago I had news of him through a mutual friend (FB again, damn the thing ) and found out life didn't really turn out for him like it has for me.

That made me want to get on a plane and go and find him. Which would rock so many worlds.

But there isn't a day goes by when I don't think about him, and I know that one day I will see him again. Because I have to.

Daisy, if the feelings are mutual, can I ask why you aren't together?

[DulcetMoans]

Mines snoring next to me. Still love him!

[TDada]

No. Can be nostalgic at times but wouldn't swap DW and DCs

[SuckingGin]

My First love? Oh hell NO!

He turned out to be a huge cheating asshat who wet his dick in any vaguely attractive woman who would give him the time of day. That pretty much killed any mushy feelings I had for him stone dead when I found out.

I hadn't seen him in a decade when I came across him as a friend of a friend on FB last year, and I just brayed with laughter. I barely recognised him, as he is not a man who has aged like a fine wine... more like a loaf of cheap bread - white and flabby with random hair - and singularly unappealing. He used to be pretty, but I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole these days, so I can't imagine he attracts all that many ladies these days

[ormirian]

I am married to him. Been with him for 32 years. Not my first or only lover, but he was my first and only real love.

[Riddo]

Yes, he died 25 years ago when we'd been married for 6 months. It was a traffic accident.

I really do love DH2 but will also always love my first love.

[Blaineisnotanappliance]

Yes. It took me years to get over him. I have never felt for my dh what I felt for him which is ridiculous as I was 18 at the time and it was all very silly and immature. I have fb stalked his wife-she is the girl he started going out with right after me

[TDada]

Very Sorry to hear Riddo

[MirandaWest]

No. I did love him, and we got married and had children. My love for him was going slowly and then got swiftly extinguished.

[pettyprudence]

I married mine We were childhood sweethearts, seperated several times and then got together for good in our early 20's. This year we celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary and 20 years since the day we met!

[FabBakerGirl]

A few months ago I would have said yes but now I have realised it isn't love I still feel for him but it is far to complicated. He is not so happily married with a child. I am happily married with a few small people. He is still hot and he still feels the same about me. Tough though.

[MarshaBrady]

It took me ages to get over him then even longer to stop having dreams about bumping into him again.

But life would have been difficult, he works in far flung places and speaks 6 languages. I would have felt like a spare part and I only speak English.

[SecretWitch]

My first husband was my first love. I have never loved anyone so intensely. We understood each other. I felt that we would be together forever. Our divorce was devastating. We have children together so we will always share a connection.

I love my second husband and in a stronger, truer, more realistic way.

[angeltulips]

No, the way we broke up & subsequent conversations actually meant I lost respect for him, and I can't love someone I don't respect. I still think he's ok & we can happily have a chat (same group of friends from school so see him from time to time) but I certainly don't love him and in fact am very glad I left him as we turned out to be fundamentally different people.

[bishbashboosh]

Yes of course I do,he's my husband almost 20 years on