The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wading Through Winter Blues Without The Booze!

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I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU.

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you. And of course all addictions, so if you are taking drugs of any kind, prescription or otherwise, you're very welcome here too!

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's all in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always. :)

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST EVER THREAD

And the most recent so you can work your way back through time IS JUST HERE

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that YOU seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

Mouse xxx

Im Well done on 10 days. That is awesome. And shows you that you can do it.

You should phone the cops, and heres why. Help SS move you to the top of their lists by having a paper trail.Dont give that asshole a chanve to claw his way back in. You are so close. Maybe this is my age, and my strange Tom Boy childhood, but do you remember a video game called Mortal Combat? It was a two player game in which characters entered into a battle. When you were close to victory in the game, a booming voice would come up and instruct you to
"FINISH HIM".

Thats what you need to do.

Im making myself sound more unhinged than normal. But hey, it works.

ma poor wee lad. Strange coincidence - DD has also this evening been in tears about school. She's in first year at secondary, and mentioned the same things as your DS - feeling left out, no friends some of the girls can also be really blotchy, plus I think hormones are running wild.

I suggested to DD that her form teacher could give advice, recommend other friendships. Also that she join loads of clubs etc and keep busy. Naturally, every suggestion was sneered at/dismissed as unworkable, but maybe an idea will stick. Eventually! Hard, isn't it?

I sympathise alias. Its a big adjustment from primary isn't it, and yes, I do think hormones are playing a part. Sitting close to ds today I noticed the red eyes of a wee boy who had been crying plus a fine down appearing on his upper lip and a scattering of small spots on his cheek.
My poor teen baby, its all so very hard.

Morning babes

Sorry being AWOL for a couple of days. Drank last Friday. Not feeling particularly bad about it as I managed to not pick up again, but it was bloody hard to not drink on Saturday - it's such a fast downfall for me when I start drinking. It is better to just abstain completely.

All good down under. Just mundane shit. Will read back properly soon and post often.

Hope you're all doing well.
xx

Ahem, I've been around!! Just off to bed though, DD has measles! And Nemo is poorly too so yayayayayay! Long night ahead of me, will check in properly tomorrow xxx

Just checking in to say I made through last night without a drink!!
As I suspected I could NOT sleep though and felt pretty wiped out today. I have not had a drink tonight either ..hoping I will get some sleep.
Is this a common problem? I struggle with insomnia anyway and really need sleep cos I am very grumpy without and I work with very highly challenging children with disabilities!

My first two nights without alcohol (apart from my norovirus 3 days) in YEARS... but I can't share this with anyone in RL as I'm ashamed of my drinking :/

It is very common not to be able to sleep properly for at least 2 weeks. But the reward is this: deep, restful sleep after that.

why thankyou I know your right I'm so frightend I like your description of the game, I'm trying to find courage today.

oops I wrote that teenage girls are 'blotchy' I'm sure you can guess what I meant!

mouse measles! Kids really are germy little creatures. Duvet day all round?

Morning all,
Sorry awol a lot at the mo just so busy in RL.
why I am in shocked disbelief at what has happened to you. Well not happened really !! WHAT AN UTTER BSTARD of a judge. You have to keep swimming babe and you are. You are truly awesome. Big hugsxx
Im you are doing brilliantly, well done to you . Re Twat, what why says "FINISH HIM" please try to report to the police, this is the way to get the help you need. xx
Ma Alias another one here with DS in First year of High School. Seem to have spent most of my time on the phone or in the school office as he too is finding the change is BIG. 30 pupils in the whole school at his primary. Really hope your DS settles soon. Making One friend he can invite home would really help with the feeling different at school and alone at home. More easily said than done tho I know.
mouse thinking of you and hoping things get better soon. xx
Will catch up with everyone else later. Sorry not to NC but I have to dash.
I Luffs you all xx

Bus is TOO quiet I don't like it

How is everyone doing ? I'm still sober today.

Something's odd with SW she seen my black eye yesterday and today on phone she said its my choice if I report to police she is not saying I have too I'm very confused as I thought that she would expect that I had to, and she mentioned no consiquenses of me not reporting him like taking dc is this normal?

Waves round bus to all xx

Im I doubt your SW has the power to decide about consequences of not reporting your injuries to police. All I can say is those who have the power in SS will look at her reports and if they feel you are not fully protecting your children there will likely be consequences. It is a sad fact that even though you are not getting the help you need from SS if you don't report this you are taking a big risk. SS really are only concerned about the children these days. Please report and tell poice if you fear for your safety by doing so. They should help, even if it is only a car outside at night. Thinking of youxx
Im sober DAY2 so you are way ahead of me. Awesome xx

Just checking in. Big wave to all and a squish to anyone who needs it.

Checking in
Ds been at school today and have had good chat with guidance team who are being brilliant.
Dd1 has gone to Spain. I thought she was going tomorrow but what do I know? I'm just glad shes gone!

Funeral today tis done and was lovely amongst the anguish, despair, loss, sadness and everything else. I truly feel that liittle 'un would have been very pleased with how things went today
I feel exhausted and I need to sleep.

I'm I'm thinking of you x

Beaches you are a peach x

Hope you will get there babe. If he left you tomorrow you could do it think about it that way round. Life is too short xxx

All you other lovely babes - you are truly amazing xxx

p.s I'm I do think you should report your injuries, if only to make a record of what's happened. It's more paper work for SS, get EVERYTHING on record so that it's logged and you have the evidence you need. sorry spanna will shut up now x

I was thinking about you today Spanna, a child's funeral must be horrifying. I am glad it went as well as it could though. Xxx

Gives a little peachybeach twirl

I need to get back on the Bus Dry March is starting to sound good to me? Any takers? What did I do , 30 days might have only been 29, but I did do it and therefore it can be done again and improved on
Every day at a time x

Dry March sounds good, though might start on 2nd as girls night out Saturday. But count me in otherwise. Thanks to all for the kind messages, will respond properly soon, been working stupid hours again. Must apologise for earlier comment saying I felt unsupported - I meant generally, in RL I am reluctant to reach out and don't have anyone special to depend on. But on this wonderful bus I have tons of support, and I would be coping a lot worse without you wonderful, amazing brave babes xxx. Will check in later. Special hugs to Spanna after the funeral. Off to work now x

Morning all

I will join in dry March. I can't believe February is nearly over, that has flown past!

Have a good day babes x

PS How are some of our newer babes getting on, don't forget to come and chat even if you don't 'know' us that well.

< moons at anyone in the sidecar >

< legs it >

Count me in dry march, I'm still going x

Good to have you back spanna

Take cover nuff

ma glad to hear that the school guidance team are being supportive

Day 3 for me. And feeling better for it. I was so exhausted last night, and alcohol would have done that thing for me where I stay up too late (not wanting the meagre amount of wine I allow myself to end) but instead I made myself go to bed early.

Even then I was trying to play my online game, but new habits seem to be popping up everywhere because I actually stopped in the middle of the game knowing I needed sleep. Similar to last Friday where I was able to STOP drinking half-way through a bottle. What is happening to me?! It's like my brain has discovered a new strength called 'willpower'.

Now, let's see if I can 'will' myself to switch off mumsnet, and do some work...

I think gerold is feeling a bit slow today where the f**k have you all done