The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wading Through Winter Blues Without The Booze!

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I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU.

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you. And of course all addictions, so if you are taking drugs of any kind, prescription or otherwise, you're very welcome here too!

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's all in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always. :)

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST EVER THREAD

And the most recent so you can work your way back through time IS JUST HERE

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that YOU seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

Mouse xxx

i'm you broke your ribs or HE broke your ribs?
Shite,are you ok?

Morning all

Lovely to hear from you MrF, well done on 76 days!

Im what happened, are you ok?

Ma they do say old habits die hard and I think this one, the drinking one, is really fighting to stay. That's why so many of us find it so bloody difficult to kick it. Keep trying, lovely lady, don't give up.

Not patronising at all Beaches :) The gym habit is only a recent thing, I've been off work with more time on my hands. It's funny it's like I gain control over one thing in my life and lose it elsewhere. During DJ I was ok with not drinking but could not motivate myself to eat well and exercise

Anyway I had some rose wine in the fridge - I didn't drink it last night on top of the red so that's somewhat of an improvement (grasping straws) - I've put it in the freezer as I want to have one af day this week! I'm off next week too and I'm going to try and pull myself together and not drink. I'm feeling really anxious about my friend's funeral, partly why I'm drinking, but I know that drinking will make it worse.

Hope your ok I'm

I have to stay sober tonight - ma I'm fine it hurts to breath out cough but that's it,you got me ma
Luffs to mouse nuff ma beaches why spanna baby venus its hope mrF isinde dancer joey guggs angry sweet

Anne hi to you too babe

faire you are right but I am sick to death of drinking and feeling shit and get being unable to stop. Its not even 1.30 and the ww is buzzing around. Even though I don't really want to, and yet I probably will.
I wish I had some fucking will power.

Ma I understand exactly that feeling. Christ, I keep trying to write something encouraging and then deleting it because it sounds like a platitude or a lecture. Here

Bloody hell Im, hope you are doing ok. Please let this be the final nail in that man's coffin, you deserve so much more.

anne I am like that too, when I do well on the eating I usually end up drinking too much. Rarely does the eating well pair up with the exercising well! Take care of yourself this week, it sounds like a very emotional time, saying goodbye to your friend. Xx

Spanna hope you are feeling a little less lonely today, while I have a lovely dh, all my real friends are a long way away and I also feel lonely sometimes. Here, have these until you get back to the school run x

Love to you all.

Beaches I've had a good day today, the sun was shining and the sea looked like sparkling diamonds I've seen various friends and their families which was lovely, although (inside) still 'a bit on my own'. It's my frame of mind at the mo, all decisions are being made by me and that is a huge responsibility and sometimes it gets a bit much. Most of the time I'm really glad it's just 'me' and I have no-one to have to explain, justify, answer to.....but right now it's all major decisions that will effect my family for the next 10 years. I had to raise £10K and I was there just before my move and for various reasons I've had 2 friends who now can't help and I've still got to raise £5K for my move and I am a rabbit in the headlights. I'm very much of the mind of 'what's meant to be will be' because, more than anything, I've done everything I can do. I even swallowed my pride and tried to get in touch with my DD's dad, through my sister in law and a close cousin of his, and, guess what I've heard nothing. this is their father who (I was with for 20 years) and hasn't seen or been in touch for 3 years, it stinks and he really is a twunt.
sorry bit of a rant there, just needed to vent x

Hey chick, I am glad you have had a good day and love that the sea sparkled like diamonds! The snow sometimes does that (although I am sick to the back teeth of the stuff now). Having to bear ALL the responsibility ALl the time must be really wearing. I am sure you do an amazing job, but it can be tough not having someone to lean on sometimes. I am sorry the money situation has gone a bit pear shaped, it is such a source of stress. God, I don't know what to say about your ex, what a bastard, does he have no compassion towards your girls? My dad walked out when I was 15 and never looked back and it left me feeling pretty confused and rejected. (We did manage some communications later, but that's a whole other novel!). Thank goodness they have you babe. I will send out a wish for the money to come to you (feeling a bit hippy today). Take care xx

That will be that full moon babe x

Thank you Beaches and all you lovely Brave Babes I really appreciate this lovely bus

What with full moon's and hormones, it's a wonder we have any say in our moods! Still just inhaled a piece of 90% Lindt so a happy moment here.

Hope everyone is doing ok tonight. soc, you have been quite for a few days, are things cooling down a bit there now? Thoughts to im and Mouse and any babes who may need a bit of support.

Facing evening number 3 here and have no temptation in the house so should make day 4.

Day 1 done.

Still on the sober wagon here. Hugs to those what need them (very unmn)

Keep on keeping on .... :)

Been reading your posts and am standing at the bus stop with my hand out. Since Friday I have drank 5 bottles of wine and hate myself for it. I know why I drink, I have a great husband and 2 kids, but I hate my job and feel very lonely, so the ww makes me forget everything. I am going to try drinking sensibly have checked and no wine left in the house.I will not buy any today!!!!

Evening All.....

Day 1 (again). Dreary dreary shit. Drank FAR too much this week-end. I hate it.

Hello dogwalks welcome to the mayhem. Stick around, it helps.

I'll check in more later.
xx

Welcome to dogwalks and hi to anyone on day 1, or day 2 ( ma ) or day 3,4,5,7,13,29..........500 ...... whatever. It is a kind of madness, knowing how horrible alcohol makes you feel, knowing how much it is costing, knowing the potential damage it does to our physical and mental health - and yet still falling into the same old, same old.

And yet it is still possible to move from that into 'it's a kind of magic' - the kind of magic where you do feel brighter, and less bloated, where you feel more in control of your choices. And every little helps. Every day does you good. So even if you've been in the side car over the weekend (or trailing behind on the road) one alcohol free day is better than none. And Monday is a good day for it.

I'm and for you. I hope you get away from him soon.

Hi babes, day one here AGAIN, drank far too much over the weekend, feeling bloated and shit... dogwalks welcome to the madhouse, do you want to try for day 1 AF, we can do it together!! spanna I can tell by your posts that you are a wonderful, caring person I have no doubt you are the same as a parent, I'm sorry things are so difficult for you, I also sent out a wee wish for you," what's meant for you will not go by you" try to remember that, huge hug. socfish ma and beaches have a great day xxx

venus I love your post and will continue my quest for "that kind of magic" it's a very inspiring ideal. im you ok babe? Was it him that hurt your ribs? mouse I hope your medication has settled down, I hate that you have all this to deal with, I hope the the love and admiration for you on here is some small consolation . Hope all babes have a good day xx

Welcome dogwalks :)

Day 2 today, have a bit of a cold so an excuse not to go to the gym. So glad I didn't drink yesterday as I'd undoubtedly feel worse than a do.

Loved your post venus, hi to all babes

welcome dogwalks and well done for being brave and making the first post

sorry not been around much, good days and bad days (and trying so hard on the 'good' days means less willpower for the diet which has really gone to pot lately - sorry, beaches)

on top of which I think I've either got interstitial cysitis or a severe and recurring case of hypochondria.

soc I hear ya
baby, dog hang in there.

Hi all

I will join all those having an af day today. Going to go for a walk/jog on the treadmill before dinner in an attempt to get my steps up to 10,000.

See you later

Hi babes, just checking in. Day 4 for me and the fog of misery is clearing a bit. Up really early, been out for a blast of arctic air long dog walk, spent some overdue time sorting some website stuff out, been to town AND done lot of housework. As it is only 2.30 here, I am doing ok. It helps me battle the wine witch if I am physically tired enough to know I will sleep.

Welcome to dogwalks

Im hope you are doing ok babe, and you mouse.

joey good to see you. Sorry you are all over the place with the health worries - did your do doctor check you for UI? I suppose you are drinking plenty of water and cranberry juice (too obvious probably). I am getting some better results on the scales finally, abandoned calorie counting and carbs and it seems to be working for now. Still using the app though, it satisfies my love of listing things

Waves to Ma, baby, soc, Spanna, Venus, faire, Anne, louise and all the rest of you motley crew.