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Need urgent advice for a friend

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VivaLeBeaver · 15/02/2014 09:50

Her partner is increasingly violent towards her. They're not married but have three kids, her names are on the deeds.

They've been separated for over a year but he refuses to leave the house. He pushes her about a lot and last night things got worse physically.

She has a solicitor who's talked about getting an occupation order to make him leave. She's too scared to do it though as she says he'll batter her. Knowing him I think he would.

She can't go to a refuge as she won't leave her dogs.

What would the police actually do if she was to serve him with an occupation order and he went off on one? I guess once she can get to a phone and call them then they'd arrest him? But at some point they'd let him go and he wouldn't care about being arrested again - he'd come straight back round and smash the door down and have another go.

OP posts:
VivaLeBeaver · 15/02/2014 11:28

Yes, he has a record for similar in the past.

OP posts:
specialsubject · 15/02/2014 11:49

you sound a good friend.

she needs to get out ASAP and get to a refuge. The dogs will have to take their chances. She cannot prioritise dogs over her kids and herself.

there is help out there.

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